Posted on 12/09/2001 9:59:41 PM PST by Don Myers
Survey finds 10 partners before marriage 'normal'
The majority of young people think it is normal for a person to have at least 10 sexual partners before marriage.
A survey has also found that three in 10 believe it is acceptable for a girl to lose her virginity before the age of 15.
Research carried out by Brook, the youth sex advisory service, says there is a "cultural change" in young people's attitudes towards sex.
Some 64% of men and 54% of women agreed that it was acceptable for a person to sleep with more than 10 partners before getting married.
But the survey, which questioned people aged 17 to 25, also showed that they wanted more information about sex and contraception.
Men admitted to getting most of their knowledge about contraception from TV and magazines, while women learned the most from magazines and their mothers.
Half of all the young women surveyed said they wished that teachers had supplied them with more information about preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.
Brook chief executive Jan Barlow said: "Young people have an increasing number of sexual partners and they are saying that's OK.
"But at the same time they don't have the information and access to services that they need.
"Young people must seek out advice and information in order to make their choices and to understand how to protect themselves both against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases."
This is very obviously the case if you look at the relative levels of promiscuity (however that is defined) in the general population. Most guys do not move in with the girls the sleep with in my experience; most young guys will tell you that has more costs than benefits. Most times, I see cohabitation happen for long-term monogamous relationships (which may or may not end up in marriage). It is kind of like the halfway house to marriage for many people.
That said, the cohabitation/marriage statistics are probably meaningless due to self-selecting populations. The types of people who choose not to co-habitate almost certainly have different statistical behaviors in marriage as well, so you are essentially looking at two different populations in parallel, not an average statistical population that has been normalized for personal belief systems. Many of the same people who don't believe in cohabitation also don't believe in divorce, or believe in divorce only in the most extreme circumstances. Correlation is not causation, and the above fact skews the results.
Any statistic that admits a margin of error of 100% is absurd.
I assume that your source's working definition of "cohabitation" is living together outside of marriage. Given that I would have to that that yes most cohabitation takes place outside of marriage
Do you have some other definition in mind for cohabitation?
A question: if I know that a particular woman has engaged in numerous casual sexual encounters, what might I reasonably guess about her emotional state of mind?
Let's assume that she still retains something of a feminine attitude and mixes together sex and emotion. What are the chances she would be emotionally damaged?
First off, there is nothing that remotely relates to a 100% margin of error. The statement simply states that if a copuple cohabitates prior to marriage, the likelyhood of divorce is 50-100% greater. This can in no way be confused with a "margin of error".
Here is an example (I did not read the article, but am addressing only the faulty logic of your statement). If marriage partners who did not cohabitate prior to marriage end up divorcing 30% of the time, then a 100% increase (a 60% divorce rate) is certainly possible.
You have studies of course to back up your claims? Or are you basing this upon your own experiences?
BTW, tortoise, some of the claims you have made on this thread are at quite a variance with those that you made on the "Asian girls" thread. But let's not be worry about being consistent....
Men want to marry virgins, because virgins have no idea that you are bad in bed or an inconsiderate lover.
Yes, most of us here on FR probably fall far below your intelligence level, oh learned one. That explains why you dodged the statistical evidence about Catholics and divorce rates.
Thank you for pointing this out.
Better to find someone who has a reason to believe you're the best.
How about just being her best.
Yes, the divorce rate for Catholics is lower; those guys living in their Medieval fiefdom over there have been successful in that regard. But do you care to give us any statistics on cheating?
Your thinking is utterly polluted.
Good sex happens in the heart and in the mind. The body then follows along.
A man and woman who love each other will be sexually compatible unless there is some physical problem with one or both of them. And if that's the case, it most likely will not matter to the other, because the love part is more important than the sex part.
People like you who are able to disconnect the physical part from the spiritual and emotional part are in for a plethora of additional problems.
Logic can still be found at FR, sometimes it takes 700 posts to find.
Finally, some wisdom. :o)
The other 7 didn't survive the confrontation with her father....
Thank God my girls are both beyond that age and raised better than that...they both know how I would have reacted to a scenario like this...I made sure they knew!
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