Posted on 12/09/2001 9:59:41 PM PST by Don Myers
Survey finds 10 partners before marriage 'normal'
The majority of young people think it is normal for a person to have at least 10 sexual partners before marriage.
A survey has also found that three in 10 believe it is acceptable for a girl to lose her virginity before the age of 15.
Research carried out by Brook, the youth sex advisory service, says there is a "cultural change" in young people's attitudes towards sex.
Some 64% of men and 54% of women agreed that it was acceptable for a person to sleep with more than 10 partners before getting married.
But the survey, which questioned people aged 17 to 25, also showed that they wanted more information about sex and contraception.
Men admitted to getting most of their knowledge about contraception from TV and magazines, while women learned the most from magazines and their mothers.
Half of all the young women surveyed said they wished that teachers had supplied them with more information about preventing pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.
Brook chief executive Jan Barlow said: "Young people have an increasing number of sexual partners and they are saying that's OK.
"But at the same time they don't have the information and access to services that they need.
"Young people must seek out advice and information in order to make their choices and to understand how to protect themselves both against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases."
Yes, the equal opportunity feminists worked so hard for "equality," that now the laws and cultural practices that habitually protected women have been nullified. And women face a dog-eat-dog world. And they are getting no sympathy from the guys. They are being used, and thrown aside when the guys get tired of using them for sex. If there is no commitment from the guys, the next good-looking chick that comes down the road is fair game for the philanderer.
I will just say that I respect the institution of marriage and let it go at that. I have nothing to say about what happens within a legal marriage.
Yes, terms have different meanings to different people. Some people will accept any behavior as normal as long as it makes the person feel good, or seems proper within that person's own defined sense of morality. We can accept anything as being moral. That often happens when a person has no set sense of right and wrong.
While it is callous to a certain extent, I would even extend this to people who are married. The motivations for guys having sex and the motivations for girls having sex are not the same. Marriage doesn't change that fact, just the scenery. Guys trying to have children by their wives/girlfriends is a relatively rare state of mind and the only honest alternative that I can think of to primal motivation to get your rocks off (no matter how you justify this motivation).
Worse, at least from a purely material perspective. The woman is now raising a child. The man has a smaller paycheck. Psychologically, as well: the woman has been abandoned and saddled with a life-changing event. The man may not give it a second thought once the whole paycheck-garnishing system has been put in place by the judge. The woman doesn't have the luxury of not giving it a second thought.
Of course, this situation (woman getting pregnant, man forced to pay child support..) is only a small percentage of the situations one ought to analyze before declaring who is worse off from a prevailing free love attitude.
I was thinking more generally, of the women out there who probably (a) read surveys like this detailing the "10 partners is normal" attitude, (b) act accordingly, and then (c) get rejected or have to settle for some jerk, because the answer a guy gives to a survey like this is not indicative of what he, personally is looking for. Get it?
That ring shows commitment, at least. Of course, if a person is the sort who doesn't honor marriage vows, it really doesn't matter. How a person acts stems from his or her own sense of proper behavior.
Spiritually pure unwed teenagers produce spiritually pure babies.
You are giving us your usual wierd observations of life.
That is as it should be. What is not right is when someone forces their own sense of proper behavior on someone else.
In other words, men are pigs (all except my husband of course).
What are you really asking, here? Are you asking me why a guy, all other things being equal, would be less likely to want to marry a woman who already has a child, or who has slept around a lot?
What do you want me to say?
The only answer I can think of is: human nature. That's why.
Bottom line is, you're telling me that human nature has a "double standard", and you're complaining about it. Sorry, but there's nothing I can do about human nature. You're just going to have to deal with it.
I believe this is a true statement, generally speaking.
Which is precisely why I believe that a "free love" attitude harms women more than it does men. It exposes women to being used and abused by hypocritical double-standard-having men. ;)
Those guys are going to be having fewer and fewer choices if that stats are right. Of course, Britney Spears is a virgin from a good Christian family so the choices may not be all that bad.
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