It's also important for the families to know where the gravesite is. I had one elderly client, not married, only one stepdaughter, and when he got very ill, he asked me to go pay for his gravesite. He knew which cemetary he wanted to be buried in and the section he liked and he wanted to make sure that would be his final resting place. I took care of it and took a picture to show him in the hospital. His family never knew anything about it until after he was gone. Then I gave them all the paperwork.... Some people don't care about these things. They say when they are gone, they are gone and they don't care. But to others, it is extremely important. Better to find out now what people want to do.
"Some people don't care about these things. They say when they are gone, they are gone and they don't care. But to others, it is extremely important. Better to find out now what people want to do." That is so true! I have had relatives who on their "death bed" told us who could ride in the FIRST CAR etc (ha) It went along with how funny they were in life, at literally their last minutes, having it their way!
We had an aunt who after her two sisters died, had a few of us cousins go BUY her a GRAVE in a certain cemetary, she wanted a "view, a nice TREE nearby..and maybe a stream" No kidding...and guess what! We found one,she was happy (she wasn't dying but had been ill) She died about a year later and at the prayers at the grave we looked around and saw she got what she wanted.
The strangest experience is shopping to buy someone something to be Buried in. WE had to do that too, for a diff aunt...and without meaning to we would horrify the salesclerk, since of course no one was "trying it on" and it's purpose etc.