It appears past time for me to bow out of this pseudo dialogue.
I have no interest in contributing to the delinquency of a physical adult.
I apologize to your wife and kids for whatever contribution my contact with you may have added to your emotional outbursts. . . . and to you.
Have a growthful life. I do strongly encourage you to go to a CREDO workshop up in Julian or attend a CREDO group down at the San Diego house. It used to be possible even for retirees. . . .your family would thank you and your unit would thank you if you are still in. . . .and it could be one of the more meaningful experiences of your life. Your CO should have the contact numbers or the web or Navy area directory should have the numbers.
You may have the last word.