My first wife was having an affair and was trying to paint me as a violent person to justify her divorce. One night she ran out of the home while I was in the shower and I couldn’t find her all night. The next morning people were telling me that I should not have chased her with a shotgun...I found out that her lawyer had recommended that she do this to sully me. The stench of that false accusation followed me for years in gossip circles. This ruling should have been made with a caveat that if the person files this and is proved false, they should be put in prison for no less than ten years as this is the time that I had to suffer for the false accusation. She wouldn’t have thought twice about hurting me with a restraining order to affect me adversely. Nevermind she’d been embezzling money for the last year of our marriage and hiding it in a bank account out of town. F’in evil woman.
Your sad situation is very common. Lawyers routinely tell the wives to get a restraining order. And claim they feel threatened.
Whatever it takes to get more child support and keep the house.
My first thought on hearing this news was “what about spouses/partners who are falsely accused by toxic crazy people?” Such as my late husband’s toxic ex-wife, who thought nothing of detonating his naval officer career, causing public scenes and attempted to destroy his relationships with his 2 sons. I witnessed her being absolutely unhinged and know there are too many other people like her doing that same thing right now. BTW, I met & entered my relationship with my husband AFTER their divorce, yet she still blames me for their separation—crazy!!! And, I had a male NCO who worked for me and he had to call the SPs on his now ex-wife who was beating on him and then she grabbed a knife!!! He said he was glad his weapons were locked up in the armory or she’d have used them on him and their kids!!! So, I’m thinking it’s NOT a good ban and lots of good people will be endangered, despite the best intentions of the SC.
That’s exactly the scenario we all fear. Just how tough is it to get a restraining order?