[odawg]

“...considering not how to make myself feel better but rather how to bless the hearer. That works when addressing believers and nonbelievers alike.”

Have you ever paid attention the dialogue Jesus had with the Pharisees? Do you think they felt blessed?

[Hebrews 11:6]

How they felt was not the whole issue. Jesus told them the truth about themselves that they needed to hear, and by that point they needed to hear it clearly and forcibly--as Ephesians 4:29 says, He discerned that was their need at that moment.