I don’t know how things are generally handled, but for a
woman to do this is terrible. Using the gender to avoid
a strike back, even the hint of that, is about as bad as
it could get, baring long term injury or a fatality.
Guys who have served, have you seen men operate in this
manner? I would certainly hope not.
Yes. Not making this up. The XO of my ship (mid 1970’s) was the same way during mooring exercises - any exercise that involved two ships in close proximity, he was totally in charge, trusted no one. Problem is, he starts barking orders and you kinda freak out over his emotional outbursts.
But you do realize, if a ship has an accident, the CO and sometimes XO careers are over. Like my XO, she trusted no one.