Well, first of all Suzy, you need to learn the difference between love and sex. There is a difference. The best scenario is when the two are combined, but they simply aren’t the same thing.
Avoid dating apps and the hook-up culture and try to meet people in more genuine settings such as church groups, charity volunteer groups, book clubs and the like.
The key word is subculture. People meet within a certain group with shared interests and shared values.
In a religious community (like mine) people know each other, recommend a friend or relative. Bride and groom have similar backgrounds.
Secular dating is aimless, as is secular marriage.