‘This insanity crosses gender lines.’
disagree; 65-35 women worse than men about this; lots of men only get involved in shaming because their women get them involved...
But as you just said, it crosses gender lines.
And most men have known since boyhood that starting silly crap with some other male they don’t know just might turn out badly for them. Women, unless they grew up in a heavily black or hispanic neighborhood, never learned that lesson.