An adult has every right to call out an unsupervised minor.
Back in the day, if it got back to your parents (and most people had two of them back then) that some adult had to correct your behavior, you’d get punished twice as hard for shaming the family name. First, mom would light into you, and then it was ‘wait until your father gets home.’ Nowadays, ‘reputation’ and ‘family name’ doesn’t seem to hold much weight.
(calling out meaning it’s ok to call out the behavior but not to scream things like I hope your parents die - that’s just overreacting)
I think that was my point. I didn’t think either of the adults were acting appropriately. I would never lay a hand on another person’s kid.
And if I was going to say anything it would be a request - not an order or shaming. Kids are like anyone else-they don’t like dictators and Karen’s and Chads.
And my kids couldn’t get by with anything, because as teachers, we had spies everywhere. We were lucky and had great kids who responded well to their upbringing, but they also knew they were in double trouble if they misbehaved.
Some parents have a lot more challenges than we did. And it’s a different world now. Crazy people telling toddlers they hope the die. That’s just hateful.