My observations have been a little different. Once they hit the wall only then are they ready to settle for the kinds of guys they turned down in their 20s....the kind who were getting their education, getting set up in their careers etc. But by then with both of them 30-35 the guys are now gunning for women in their mid to late 20s and they have a shot at them since they're set up in their careers. They're no longer interested in the women their age both because their youth is gone but also because they know those women don't really want them and think they'd be settling and nobody wants to be settled for.
Once they hit the wall only then are they ready to settle for the kinds of guys they turned down in their 20s.
We're saying the same thing: "not excited by" == "ready to *SETTLE* for".
And often when they get married, they miss the thrill of getting pounded hard by bad boys, the BJs in club bars, etc. -- so they take their "look-I'm-a-Mom-too" kid and divorce-rape the guy.
Then discover, they can't land (or even attract the attention of for more than a booty call, only this time even SHE notices it), the bad boys.
Question for guys: what would you prefer as a wife: a high-paid career woman who may allow you to afford a bigger house and fancier car? But she will lose interest in sex shortly after the marriage.
Or a high-school dropout who would keep your house, cook your meals, raise your kids, and have sex with you every night, for your whole marriage? But your standard of living would be determined by just the husband's paycheck.