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Obsolete Man Skills You Should Ditch
askmen ^ | January 11, 2019 | Ian Stobber

Posted on 05/25/2019 3:43:57 PM PDT by Mount Athos

1. Hunting Hunting was a hugely important skill for much of human history, but in light of the rise of cheap and readily available factory-farmed meat, hunting’s relationship to the food we actually eat has disappeared for the overwhelming majority of the population. If you grew up in a rural area, there’s a good chance you learned to shoot game at some point, but as much as many contemporary guys fantasize about being able to kill a wild animal and eat it (Mark Zuckerberg, anyone?), particularly if you live in a big city, there’s really not much real-world benefit to that glorification.

Instead, Learn How to Cook for Yourself

Meanwhile, the average millennial man is probably more adept at ordering dinner online than actually making it, which is too bad. Cooking your own meals is a lot of fun, generally cheaper than eating out or ordering in, and typically healthier, too. It’s also something that, while it may seem impossible to a beginner, is actually not as complicated as it seems. Join a cooking class — or even watch some YouTube how-tos or try a meal kit delivery service — and you might be surprised at how handy you become in the kitchen. And yes, it will impress people.

2. Fighting It’s a pretty common conception that at the root of every male confrontation is the possibility of physical violence. Road rage incidents, bar standoffs, most guys have found themselves in a situation that felt like a prelude to fisticuffs. And in a violent dog-eat-dog world, there’s a certain logic to that approach. But how many of those situations actually evolve into a fight? And why should any of them? Physical fighting literally doesn’t solve anything — it just leaves people angry and bruised, or worse.

Instead, Learn How to Mediate

Problem-solving with an eye to compromise and healthy conflict resolution is something that, by and large, men just aren’t taught growing up. That’s one of the reasons many of us are so quick to start swinging or shoving rather than handling things with our words. But if we start thinking that the real loss isn’t losing (or walking away from) a fight, but rather getting into one in the first place, what would we really lose?

The old-world caveman mentality of brute force’s dominance is dying out. If you’re someone who can work through a confrontation without needing to beat the other person into submission — physically, verbally or emotionally — you’ll see it pay off in your close personal relationships, too. Next time things start getting heated, try recognizing that you're angry and trying to engage the other person with your words (or just walking away).

3. Repairing Your Car In the popular imagination, the greasy car mechanic wiping his sweaty brow as he peers into your car hood is always a guy. Concordantly, the idea that a car is a guy thing and a guy should be able to fix his car as a result is something that’s pretty ingrained in our cultural beliefs. But as cars shift from analog behemoths to digital devices, some of the basic functionality in your car is now completely out of the fixing range of even the handiest of men. Not to mention that increasingly, electric cars, public transit, and cycling are becoming more attractive options for environmental reasons, and ride-sharing or car-sharing services mean the link between being in a car and being responsible for its functioning is as tenuous as it’s ever been.

Instead, Learn How to Code

The 20th century mythos of the car as a vehicle that gave you freedom — to cross great distances, to discover new things, to leave your past behind — is perhaps now more accurately applied to the internet. There’s a pretty good chance you spend more time online these days than driving (ideally not at the same time, though), but the average person probably has little idea how any of the internet actually functions, let alone how to build a website or make an app.

Considering the way the economy is increasingly shifting toward the digital, having at least a solid grounding in what makes the internet tick is a good idea generally. There are a lot of free or cheap how-to courses designed to help you learn how to code these days. Give one a try and see if it doesn’t come more in handy than learning to replace the alternator.

4. Fixing Things at Home Power tools are such a de facto man thing that you’d be hard-pressed to find examples of women using them in most movies or TV shows. Men just are the mechanics of the world, right? As with car maintenance, however, the idea that a man owns his house and should therefore know how to take care of it is increasingly an outdated concept. With most millennials having no real shot at home-ownership, there’s a good chance your landlord will be the one in charge of fixing anything that goes wrong in your place — or, more likely, paying someone else to.

Instead, Learn How to Decorate

It’s a sort of running gag in contemporary culture that women put a lot of effort into decorating their homes and filling them with the basic household necessities while men, well, sleep on a mattress lying on the floor. While it’s not as cut-and-dried as that, the average guy probably has some catching up to do with regards to interior design. It’s not something that women are innately better at, after all; it’s something that you can make serious strides in by committing yourself to. If you have the time and/or the money, investing in how your space looks, feels, and functions can really change how you feel about the space (and how any potential dates you bring home feel about it).

5. Being a Leader For much of human history, patriarchal societies meant women were expected to stay home and raise children, and men were expected to run everything else. Meaning, while there’s a good chance your mom wasn’t a CEO, your grandmother almost certainly wasn’t.

But in today’s world, the notion that a man will or must be a leader is increasingly vanishing. What that means is that guys who were brought up expecting to be in control are now having to accept that — gasp! — their boss is a woman. What to do?!

Instead, Learn How to Collaborate

Workplaces of the future are likely to be less reliant on men’s top-down leadership and more dependent on open communication between coworkers of all genders and utilizes a lot of different peoples’ skill sets. Rather than a bunch of guys all competing to nail down a corner office, a healthy workplace is one where ego takes a backseat to communal success.

Unrestrained ambition and a need to be in control all the time will hurt your chances at a promotion, not help them. So instead, try to focus on building soft skills such as supporting co-workers, building links between different divisions, and knowing how and when to compromise.

6. Being a Disciplinarian For a long time, the most important aspect of being a father was simply providing for your family, and second, perhaps, was molding your sons into men. That meant being stern with them — even harsh. That meant toughening them up by teaching them how to shoot, how to fight, how to push through their pain, how to overcome their fears. All the old Man Skills, basically.

The archetypal disciplinary father really wasn’t setting his sons up to have emotionally healthy lives, though, meaning possible repressed trauma, difficulty communicating about feelings, and a dire need to see a therapist are far more common than you’d hope for adult men.

Instead, Learn How to Communicate With Your Children

If you really want to have a positive impact on their lives, it’s vital that you prioritize being there for them and encouraging them to be open with you about what they think and how they feel, rather than pushing them to fit into a narrow model of how to be. Don’t be the father who punishes his son for exploring more feminine things — he’ll resent you. Instead, be the father who encourages his kids to pursue their own interests and to become their own people, and who’s there to listen when something’s gone wrong.

RELATED: How to Be a Better Father, Explained

7. Holding Your Emotions In For a long time, the model man was stoic: the strong, silent type who never cried and wouldn’t admit when something made him sad or afraid. Let’s leave that whole concept in the past where it belongs.

Aside from just valuing communication, kindness, and empathy, this is a life-and-death issue. Men’s inability to open up can cause them to struggle with forming friendships and meaningful bonds with other people, which scientists have linked to early male mortality rates. That’s right: Being emotionally walled up is literally killing men.

Instead, Learn How to Talk About Your Feelings

As a man, there might not be any single more important skill you can pursue than emotional maturity. Understanding what you’re feeling, why you’re feeling it, and how to handle that feeling is something that few men are taught growing up, and it’s hard to overstate the negative impacts the absence of that skill can pose. If you have the means to, consider going into therapy. Even if you don’t feel that you’re struggling and haven’t been diagnosed with any mental health issues, therapy is a proven effective way to work through problems that have been plaguing you and become a happier, healthier version of yourself.

TOPICS: Culture/Society; News/Current Events
KEYWORDS: culture; feminazism; gelding; men; metrosexuals; savethemales; skills; smashthepatriarchy; takeawayhispower
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To: BillyBonebrake

His FB page says he’s in Calgary, Texas. He probably gets beat up a lot.

121 posted on 05/25/2019 4:52:15 PM PDT by gundog ( Hail to the Chief, bitches!)
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To: Mount Athos

This article is basically don’t be a man be a light in the loafers bottom bitch.

Either written by a woman or a pillow biter.

122 posted on 05/25/2019 4:52:32 PM PDT by HamiltonJay
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To: BillyBonebrake
Just reading that makes me want to fight the guy.

I think that he might just wet himself and faint if anyone tried.

123 posted on 05/25/2019 4:53:27 PM PDT by Rio
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To: Mount Athos

Is this satire...did they have...”never have an erection?” Sorry...couldn’t read past 4

124 posted on 05/25/2019 4:55:14 PM PDT by goodnesswins (White Privilege EQUALS Self Control & working 50-80 hrs/wk for 40 years!)
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To: Mount Athos


125 posted on 05/25/2019 4:56:37 PM PDT by ChinaGotTheGoodsOnClinton (Go Egypt on 0bama)
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To: Mount Athos

The list is just giving wimps an excuse not to be men.

The feminization of the country has been its downfall.

126 posted on 05/25/2019 4:57:29 PM PDT by CodeToad ( Hating on Trump is hating on me and Americans!.)
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To: 21twelve

I wasn’t putting down coding per se. I was saying coding isn’t a survival skill like the 20th century man skills he wants males to ditch.

Coding won’t be of much use if an EMP fries the electric grid.

127 posted on 05/25/2019 4:58:38 PM PDT by DeplorablePaul (s)
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To: Mount Athos

Yeah, there’s not enough soy boys as it is. We definitely need instructions on how to make more.

128 posted on 05/25/2019 4:59:13 PM PDT by Still Thinking (Freedom is NOT a loophole!)
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To: Mount Athos

How to be a metro pajama boy, by a metro pajama boy.

129 posted on 05/25/2019 4:59:49 PM PDT by gogeo (Liberal politics and mental instability; coincidence, correlation, or causation?)
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To: 9YearLurker

They can have my tools when they pry them outta my cold dead hands.

130 posted on 05/25/2019 5:00:54 PM PDT by moovova
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To: Mount Athos

When Vietnamese descend on my fishing spot I whip the pole and hook around and pretend I cant fish. They go away.

131 posted on 05/25/2019 5:03:43 PM PDT by mylife (The Roar Of The Masses Could Be Farts)
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To: KC_Lion

More and more pajama boys had no father in their lives, and therefore no “fatherly teachings”.

FWIW, years ago I read that the #1 indicator as to whether or not someone will be incarcerated was the presence of their father in the home.

132 posted on 05/25/2019 5:05:17 PM PDT by kearnyirish2 (Affirmative action is economic warfare against white males (and therefore white families).)
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To: Mount Athos

Satire apparently. None of these are worth a second of thought. Celebrate masculinity wherever and whenever.

133 posted on 05/25/2019 5:05:40 PM PDT by lurk
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To: MayflowerMadam

It has to be a joke-I wouldn’t even have a conversation or get physical with un hombre sin cojones-not even with a $100 bucks a health card and a note from his mother-I like my men muy macho-not metrosexual...

I hope no self-respecting guy takes the crap in that article seriously, if they want to attract a real woman...

134 posted on 05/25/2019 5:06:12 PM PDT by Texan5 ("You've got to saddle up your boys, you've got to draw a hard line"...)
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To: Mount Athos

In effect, become a woman.

No thanky.

135 posted on 05/25/2019 5:06:12 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not Averse to Going Bronson.)
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To: BudgieRamone
"Larry Correia author of Monster Hunter International fisked the heck out of this guy and his article a while back. pretty good reading."

And since you didn't post it, here's the link: Fisking the Obsolete Man Skills Article

I also very much enjoyed this page of comments at gun forum "AR15" that also eviscerate this same doofus article. Quite entertaining! (warning: bad language, in case you're a 13-year old Freeper reading this). Here are a few choice comments:

.... and lots more.
136 posted on 05/25/2019 5:06:54 PM PDT by CardCarryingMember.VastRightWC ("Blessed are the young, for they shall inherit the national debt" - Pr. Herbert Hoover)
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To: Qiviut

A LADY who has a list, I am impressed.
Although I would recommend that you add several more items to it.
Before I got married (42 years now), I made a list of what I wanted or thought I needed in a wife, the girl I married just blew my list out of the water.
Independent Thinking was #1 on my list, that’s the one that will last forever.

137 posted on 05/25/2019 5:06:55 PM PDT by 5th MEB (Progressives in the open; --- FIRE FOR EFFECT!!)
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To: Scott from the Left Coast

Right— butt gig it— that’s reaaaaallly male behaviour (NOT- in any species except when population/food pressures create male dominance expression— like raping lesser ranked males in a chimp pack for example- is the behaviour. Can’t interview the Alpha males to see if they prefer homo sex, so it is assumed as a dominance behvaiour, and the dominee is reduced in rank and stature from the top chimp).

Nothing in US human society requires a male to be a butt gig— except their own twisted ideas of who they are or might be. Which is why, if they want to convert as a tranny- and get the surgery— they don’t last long and the suicide rate is in the 90%ile rank. They find “changing their sex” doesn’t answer their mental issues. This is all from Johns Hopkin’s Emeritus Professor/MD who developed the psychiatric workup for sex re-assignment.

Yeah- danny has two mommies— that’s really biologically sound.

138 posted on 05/25/2019 5:11:00 PM PDT by John S Mosby (Sic Semper Tyrannis)
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To: 5th MEB

the girl I married just blew my list out of the water.

made ya fergit all about lists?

139 posted on 05/25/2019 5:11:07 PM PDT by txhurl (whoa)
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To: Scott from the Left Coast


140 posted on 05/25/2019 5:12:55 PM PDT by Hostage (Article V)
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