Your analogy is so absurd as to leave my jaw hanging.
No, it’s like the federal government telling the states to build highways, but since New Jersey builds 12-foot lanes, Alabama has been building 12-foot lanes. Alabama decides to build 11-foot lanes, and gets told the DOT will no longer fund the airport in Birmingham.
As to your claim, “If states don’t want Planned Parenthood to get Medicaid funding, they should just stop accepting Medicaid funding, period,” you sound like the Muslims who used Dhimmitude to disappear Christianity from the face of the Middle East. Alabama still has to pay for Medicare if they “reject” Medicare. As such, they will quickly be destroyed economically.
That post isn’t even coherent. You present completely incorrect analogies, then mix up Medicare and Medicaid in the same post.