Like so much in the Western world....this used to be common sense.
Back in the 70s there was a women who gathered some other women who all worked to open people's minds to the evils of feminism. They fought against the Equal Rights Amendment being passed in Congress. They got lambasted but did prevail and the ERA was finally rejected. That woman was Phyllis Schlafly.
If is had not been for her and her Eagles we would have had to fight the whole LBGTQ crap a lot sooner than we are now fighting it.
bkmk
I’m a boomer in my mid sixties. I can’t tell you how many of my friends made the same mistake as this woman.
So many of them prioritized career over family. Many of them let the clock tick by, and never had kids. Many didn’t even marry until their forties and fifties.
When we talk on holidays now, I can sense their sadness when I’m going on about my house full of kids and grandkids.
Interesting, this.
I’m happily married to my second wife after loosing the first one to cancer. I married the second wife when she was in her late 40s. She had never been married. She experienced each and every thing mentioned in this article. Actually she did want a partner, but she was cursed with being successful and very smart (the two are not necessariy correlated - see Moochelle and the Hillabeast). As such, men avoided her. I did not, and was amply rewarded. Why men avoided an intelligent attractive woman is beyond me.
We are both very happy after over 12 years of marriage and both of us are very glad we have each other for support for all thing involved with life.
I pity the feminists (radical ones, that is) for so many reasons.
But, that’s their probem, not ours.
bttt
I am here to eat popcorn, and read the comments.
This female bought into the “I can have everything” mantra.
I am female. 79 years old. I have a good high school education & SOME college courses, which I got in night school over 10 years after high school.
I started working in a real job when I was 17, at the Kroger Divisional offices in Madison, Wis. I was RECRUITED by their managers from high school ‘business machines classes’. I could use a calculator quite well, and also a Comptometer, a manual machine which has been replaced by computers. We checked & double checked incoming invoices before paying them.
In later jobs, I checked & verified invoices both incoming & outgoing, as an accounting function normal in those days. One boss told me in the late 60’s that “IF I didn’t get into college accounting classes, he would fire me”. He knew that computers were going to erase ‘comp operators’ & he saw some sort of potential in me.
I attended night classes, 2 nights a week for 4 years. I did not get an accounting degree, but I got enough accounting knowledge to be a good bookkeeper.
While still working full time in major companies, I worked nights, doing bookkeeping for small, often one-man businesses, and honed my skills. I charged ONLY for the hours I worked, NEVER have charged a minimum, and started out at $5 an hour in my billing. Some jobs called for weekly attention—most for monthly.
After one employer, (on the clock with a W-2), accused me of mailing a check for which there were no funds, I walked out. That was the last job I had with a W-2. I had $69 in the bank, and all my monthly bills & mortgage were paid. I owned my own house. I actually knew the vendor he was lying to & I got into the phone call & denied that mailing the check was MY idea. That was the summer of 1980.
I got the word out FAST that I was going to try & be SELF-Employed, and that I needed more clients. Word of mouth only. Wasn’t easy, and I worked many a night into the wee hours. Especially in January, closing books, doing all W-2’s & 1099’s, and end of year payroll reports & sales tax reports. I found work with many SMALL businesses. Largest one had 18 employees on the books. Most were single owners or just one employee. BUT-—ALL businesses need their bookkeeping done. ALL of them.
However, I did build a decent business with as many as 19 clients at one time. I did books in paper ledgers until Nov
of 1991. I bought a computer, software & printer & a friend who understood computers trained me on that Dac East accounting system. I STILL AM USING THAT SYSTEM. To learn the system, I spent days & nights being tutored, and I re-did ALL the paper ledgers for my clients (at NO CHARGE TO THEM) as a learning process. That was 11 months of bookkeeping for I don’t remember how many clients . But I learned that system.
I owned my house, my car, and eventually was able to buy horses, a truck, trailer & compete in a sport called endurance racing. During 1988 season, I was asked to race for National Points in that sport on another person’s horse. I put over 30,000 miles on the truck & trailer & was quite successful. I was out of the county where I lived 61 days that year, but still billed over $63,000 at $18 an hour. That averaged out to about 78 HOURS a week when I was IN TOWN. The rest of that time, I was either driving or riding or camped out at base camps.
I bought another house in a different part of the state & moved there in 1993. I was able to keep 2 clients, who mailed me their data & I mailed data back. One of those clients just retired, and I did work for his company for OVER 45 years. I am still doing work for the other guy & I have done so for over 48 years. I am still using the same DOS computer & accounting system & printer & monitor.
I now live in rural N Nevada on property I own free & clear with my horses & dogs. I have been married 2 times for a total of less than 50 months. I have lived alone, but I have many friends & have riding partners. I have some riders I have competed with for over 33 years.
I have had a decent life, and have seen alot of the USA on horseback.
I never was part of the generations that were told ‘You Can Do It ALL’. I was taught to work hard & do my best.
I did just that. I cannot think of much I would change—except the 2nd marriage. I claim temporary insanity over that. That’s my story & I’m sticking to it.!!
This woman made her choices. Seems she has put herself into a funk. She can find hobbies or other things outside of work to do, but she is not seeming to do so.
She was brave stepping forward...
Prov 30:15b There are three things that are never satisfied, Four never say, “Enough!”:
16 The grave,
The barren womb,
The earth that is not satisfied with water—
And the fire never says, “Enough!”
Singleness isn’t necessarily a bad choice for every woman. I met one a few years ago where I get my car worked on. I asked her if she was married; she indicated that she was happily single. She looked to be at least my age (which was upper 40s at the time).