There are several good reasons to go abroad for adoption. Virtue signaling isn't one of them. Parental age and long waiting lists are a problem in the U.S. Underlying that is the fact that we kill most of our unwanted children and slip many of the remaining easily adoptable kids through private adoption programs where money talks. Too many of the children who are available are special needs kids, are older, and/or have spent years in unsatisfactory foster care situations. And then there is the insanity of the U.S. legal system, with demon crackhead moms waiting in the wings to reengage as soon as they get out of the slammer. Going this route is called "buying a problem." It can be a lot simpler and safer to just go abroad, and get a clean, final adoption of a healthy infant with no nightmarish strings attached.
“And then there is the insanity of the U.S. legal system, with demon crackhead moms waiting in the wings to reengage as soon as they get out of the slammer.”
Exactly our experience. We had him from 6 weeks to 2 years of age, fully intending to adopt. Then the social workers and the crackhead birth mother upended it all when she got out of prison. From sporadic contact we had with his grandmother, he has learning disabilities and other issues, that have not been addressed. He has been in and out of his sister and grandmother’s homes,so much for keeping him with his mother.