Posted on 05/29/2018 5:46:43 AM PDT by Cronos
Tbowling alley in my small town in central Pennsylvania. An older man bought me a beer and talked to me while he shot pool. Smoking and drinking in that grungy bowling-alley bar in the seediest part of town, I felt cosmopolitan and mature. I was oblivious to the transaction taking place: by drinking his beer, I was entering into an implicit and unwritten contract in which I was expected to fulfill a sexual obligation. One of my more astute and experienced friends told the man that I had a boyfriend and had no intention of being intimate with him. He became irate and threw a lit cigarette into my hair as I left the bar. I went home scared and confused as to why my acceptance of a beer and friendly conversation had gotten me into a terrifying mess.
What I learned that day is that attention from unfamiliar men is implicitly transactional, and a failure to pay the price can result in some traumatic consequence. I admit that on this point, I have been proven wrong repeatedly over time. But I have also had enough disturbing experiences that every male stranger is suspect. It’s always possible that I am going to be expected to acknowledge a tacit, unwritten contract and obey its terms and conditions. It’s a contract only a man can create, and sometimes it feels like only a man can break it. Women are expected to sign on the dotted line.. ...
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It tells me I am too old now.
I have questions...
Domestic or Imported?
Bottle or Draft?
Light, Regular or a Dark Malt?
Now, what was she complaining about again?
“So if a guy buys you a beer, you are expected to have sex with him?”
More likely if she’s an alcoholic. And maybe more than one beer.
She explained that. She's a staunch feminist, and an academic.
The thing is, while it is morally good, I look at guys I know who don’t follow this - and they are dissatisfied. God gave us these commandments for a reason.
That’s what she is doing. A woman asking you to buy her a drink is just her way of panhandling.
Women ages 23-30 today have grown up with these soyboys and male feminists. Any sign of masculinity attracts them.
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