My suggestion is to stop demanding obeisance to family; if it is a positive one, affirm it, if not, let people make their own lives. In America, we have a sick allegiance to family that harms many in the long run. Molested daughters visiting their molesters in jail, letting their children visit their “grandfather” because, after all, he is their “grandfather”, covering up crimes of the parents because of biology, it makes me shudder.
How deliciously ironic.
You refer to a “sick allegence” to “family” as if the demand for “obeisance to family” causes otherwise wholesome people to return victimized children to a pit of despair!
Talk about “straw man!”
What’s “sick” is your antipathy, and failure to recognize an inherently meritorious societal icon, because it is practiced by both the righteous and the wicked.
The failure here is with your understanding of “cart” and “horse.”