How deliciously ironic.
You refer to a “sick allegence” to “family” as if the demand for “obeisance to family” causes otherwise wholesome people to return victimized children to a pit of despair!
Talk about “straw man!”
What’s “sick” is your antipathy, and failure to recognize an inherently meritorious societal icon, because it is practiced by both the righteous and the wicked.
The failure here is with your understanding of “cart” and “horse.”
the take away is: not all families should be reunified.