Posted on 11/25/2017 1:19:47 PM PST by Oshkalaboomboom
It’s ironic or tragic or outrageous that in a nation where parents are allowed to keep their children on the family health insurance policy until they’re 26-years-old, many foster children are told to hit the streets when they turn 18. Why is that you ask? Foster parents receive a monthly stipend for foster children in their care. The check is based on the age of the child, extenuating circumstances, and if the child has any disabilities. Amounts can vary depending of the state administering the program.
One thing all the checks have in common is that when the child turns 18 the money from the state stops. Call me naïve, but I would have thought that if a family truly cared about the individual it was fostering the absence of a check would not make any difference.
It shows you how much I know. For some revenue-minded foster "parents" when opening the door no longer provides a check, the foster child is shown the door.
In South Carolina the non-profit Carolina Youth Development Center is working to change this unpleasant reality for at least a few that have aged out of foster care.
CYDC is partnering with Cummins International — the manufacturer of the diesel engines that power the big rigs — to produce independent living transitional housing for those former foster kids. CYDC CEO Beverly Hardin told the Moultrie News, “Children don’t just become independent when they turn 18. They still need guidance and a safe and stable environment in order for them to grow into responsible adults capable of caring for themselves.”
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foster care takes the place of the institutions that the leftists were so keen to close in the seventies. The foster homes are being paid, like the institutions were paid to keep the children for the state. Of course they should be paid.
People do not take in fosters out of the goodness of their hearts, at least not the state fosters.
What do you call owning someone for profit?
Are you off your meds?
I’m supposed to put a dowm payment of 30 % for six houses, one for each of my children?
Oh wait’ you didn’t know that yet presume to preach to me...
How many houses did you buy for your multiple children ?
That could be.
You need to make some new acquaintances. There are goodhearted people. God is good and He shares His goodness!
Only person I know who did foster care did it for the funds. He is and was a Dick head. Now was the kids better off. I don’t know. I’m not in the house.
Nice if you can afford to buy your children homes! My 18 year old has the choice. Go to college and live rent free or pay rent. She wants to work and forgo school so she is paying rent. About 1/8th of what an apartment would cost, and I’m putting the cash in a secret savings account for her which she doesn’t know about. But she says she wants to be an adult and do as she pleases. I’m probably being too lenient on her.
Wow, that just wasn’t right. I’m so sorry that you went through that.
“Personally, I think orphanages run by religious institutions worked better.”
My gut feeling is to agree, although I have no data to support this. Clearly, neither is ideal. I think we all need to understand how important the first several years of life are in defining a child’s life, and what demons they will have to deal with as adults. It’s difficult to get past abuse, neglect, and the absence of love. Not impossible, but difficult. Family is so very important, but we’ve downplayed this as a society, to great detriment and risk.
Are you nuts? Visiting here from the DUmp??? Popman is teaching his kids the value of hard work and discipline. I’m surprised any FReeper would have a problem with that.
My niece adopted a foster daughter, her 1st name is the same as my niece’s last name. They gave her the option of keeping her former name, picking a new one or taking their last name and she chose theirs.
A friend got a foster son when he was 8. The poor child had been profoundly abused and was always terrified of making a mistake. Sadly, it took 5 years for them to get the go ahead to adopt him and his first request was to get baptized, they came straight from the courthouse. He’s 16 now and a great kid.
My other niece just adopted an 18 Mo. that they have had since he was an infant.
When I was 4 & 1/2 and my sister was two years younger, we lived with foster parents for about 6 months. ‘Aunt Teeny’ and ‘Uncle Arthur’ on a farm in Arkansas. They also cared for another little girl, Jeannie.
They were kind, we had an old tractor tire sandbox and Uncle Arthur would let me stand behind him, holding onto his shoulders while he drove the tractor. Our Mom would visit on weekends.
My sister & I also lived with an uncle & aunt for most of a year once and with our grandmother several times. We knew that we were loved by family, foster family and our Mom. And our Dad, even though he drank asd was not around too much.
We’ve also had friends who have taken foster kids into their homes. Like raising your own kids, it can be real work. It can also be greatly satisfying or heartbreaking.
“Like a box of chocolates...”
That sounds horrible.
He is teaching his kids to pursue slavery, likely learned from his parents.
Ah but you presented your daughter with a lousy false dilemma. Beat yourself up a bit because all parents make the mistake.
If a parent is willing to let their child to live rent free for college, the 3rd OPTION is the best of the three. Live rent free and save for a house down payment. The rule though is Parents cannot touch any of the money because everybody wants to spend other people’s money, especially on junk. That error makes your child a slave. But the money ONLY goes for down and you crimp until achieved. A drug addict, she fails. Be supportive.
But parents and kids love to spend their kid’s money on stupid stuff like cars or vacations. Those are bad debt. A mortgage down, 20% plus is good debt. Then it is a race against inflation, but a good race.
She wants to experience the false freedom as a renter. Tell her as an owner, it is real adult freedom. Basic algebra skills help, Annual Mort Rate math.
With the house, she can rent to a friend. That is the adult way. And keep your secret money separate, because if she earns 15% and you have 15% down, that is team work. That is love.
She can then rent to that othef FReeper’s (Popman) kids, rent debters.
But save you must UNTIL the monthly home payment is STABLE.
Then she does not need any college debt. A future paid off house she can work anyplace.
LOL. Don't take this the wrong way, but if they were teenage sluts, what would that make you?
I love good foster/adoption stories like the ones you mentioned! It is amazing what difference a loving home can make. Most of these kids are too young to know just how fortunate they are to have been adopted, but they’ll surely understand some day (and your friend’s 16-year-old probably already does!).
We had to attend classes. A huge percentage of foster parents today are kinship foster parents meaning aunt, uncle, adult sibling, or grandparents. Some were there as young couples looking to adopt. Never become a FP to adopt. They won't allow it.
Reagan is naive the real abusers of the foster parent program are the kids birth parents in many cases. The kids usually taken for abuse etc will likely see foster homes many of them for years to come while the parents Party On. The parents play the system with very Liberal LCSW's in the state children's services agencies placing the mother's right to go have fun over that of the permanent stability of the children. BTW once a child is adopted all state help ends. But very, very, few are allowed to be adopted because states refuse to terminate parental rights. A child age 10 stands a good chance of timing out meaning turning 18 in foster care.
A kinship foster parent is the hardest because the state expects/demands you make special allowances for the parents and that even can reach the point of enabling abuse. Many kinship FP's leave the program due to threats, harassment, non cooperation, and flat out high stress.
Yeah, but women's right have come so far!
All you need to make women equal is a nanny state to institute taxpayer funded social programs, and a state security apparatus, to take the place of husbands!
Another positive twist is since your child is young, put all her earned money in a small cap fund from any of the few big stock firms.
Small cap = 20 years @ 11%
Large cap = 15 years @ 7.5%
The signed contract is the fund is ONLY for retirement or a house. No other options.
If she marrys a rich guy with a house already it is her retirement. Otherwise it is house down payment.
These assume you have a good trust relationship with your child. But these are the MAXIMUM earning potential. 15 years eg is the safe period, guarenteed money, shy of major nuclear war.
Rich dad or Poor dad.
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