You make some very excellent points, though I disagree with your "let's not be like them" philosophy.
I believe the ONLY way to fight the enemy is on their battlefield. It's far too late in the game to fight on ours. We gave that up a long time ago.
I assert that you are only half-right, bagster. ;)
First, it’s a poor writer who blames his reader so all is good and I’m trying to get better.
Secondly, not caring is the greatest insult and disparagement you can bestow upon these people. They can thrive on our emotions as much as theirs. But look closely at where they actually ARE fighting in the culture and at every point of conflict it is about the insistence that we care about whatever offends, that we be offendsensitive too. It is (remember the real enemy is not flesh and blood but powers and principalities behind flesh and blood) precisely by responding as we are invited to that their rhetorical-emotive position is strongest.
Caring about their feelings and Offendsensitivity, even a bit, is the new form of paying the Dane Geld (pay the Dane Geld and the Danes never go away). Better to laugh in their faces and mock them for holding to foolishness and vapid, sentimental notions. Treat them with contempt and as contemptible, literally don’t care and even act as if there is social glue holding you and them together that you should care about their idiocy is a hostility without anger (they aren’t even worth anger, only stoic opposition). It is to be an implacable foe given the terms and ends for which they fight.
When I say don’t be like them I mean: don’t wander down some similar road as they have to become creatures that mindlessly protect their own as they do.