[Baynative]

"Have you ever heard a contemporary woman described, with respect, as “modest”?"

It is indeed a thing of the past. When I was unfortunate to live in Washington state a very popular bumper sticker I saw a lot said "Well behaved women seldom make history". I think that can be taken in several ways.

When I was in high school (a long time ago) girls wore plain gold circle pins to signify virginity. They were proud to do so.

[libstripper]

There was also the joke about the girl with ten notches on her virgin’s pin.