The first problem is, none of us are perfect. The second problem is it is very hard for us to judge for ourselves where we belong on the scale of perfection vs demon. Are we average, less than average, or overall above average? The third problem is, if you’re an honest person and try to be open with people, they can trash you for your frankness, saying that proves how low you were. The fourth problem is that we are sometimes too hard on ourselves, but we mean well and want to be completely fair, when those around us have no intention of being reciprocal.
At some point you just give up and accept that life doesn’t always turn out like we wish it would. You hope for the kids to be happy and are content thinking they probably are less conflicted without you trying to be in their life.
We all have a right to peace, and sometimes men have to make concessions to attain what they are as entitled to as anyone else.
Wisdom. You have it. Very nice post, DO.
“sometimes men have to make concessions to attain what they are as entitled to as anyone else.”
Wise words. I hope you finally found a sweet lady with whom you can share your heart and life.
“You hope for the kids to be happy and are content thinking they probably are less conflicted without you trying to be in their life.”
Except that fathers have a Biblical mandate to be active in the raising of their children (the Proverb says to train them up in the way they should go, and when they are old, they will not depart from it). Also, see Ephesians 5. Capitulating to the demands of a selfish parent (often Mom who has primary custody), and handing over children to be raised in an unsuitable environment, which might include an environment with no Dad (or almost no Dad) is never in the best interests the child(ren); there is no true peace for the child when they are isolated from one parent.