Everyone has a choice. My parents were both abused as kids, and neither one was abusive to either my siblings or me.
Everyone INCLUDING YOU threw away a lot of choice in the Garden folly.
Be very careful or you will find God holding YOU to standards that you held everyone else to.
And also abuse can show on more than one level. Some may beat; some may merely use unkind words and teach callousness.
You are darn right, only the weak, of will & mind, would use ANYTHING as an excuse to abuse their children.
As far back as I can remember, I knew that I would never, make someone endure what I did. I made the choice to be my own man over 40 years ago.
There are times when the rage makes it so that I can't think straight. I look at my left arm, the scars, and remember; the hot metal, the stench of my skin burning and the sizzle,silence, repeat.
I wasn't even 5 yet but I didn't break then and I won't now.
NEVER a reason, NEVER an excuse.