I think I get it now. I really did need that much help.
No worries. I think most Americans do not know these things, because who would want to learn stuff like this?
People really do not know what "gay" means. They have this fancy idea put into their head by movies and television, but it does not accurately reflect the reality of the "gay" lifestyle.
It is basically a complicated form of suicide.
Something else most people don't know is that the number one cause of death among homosexuals *is* suicide.