You were probably shaking only because the experience was new and intimidating, not because of the recoil. Your fear made the recoil seem worse than it was. I’d bet it’d go away after a couple range sessions.
Try a Ruger GP-100 revolver (.357 mag / .38 Spl.). Shouldn’t be a problem.
I don’t recall recoil. In the back of my mind I thought the little gun would explode or something ;-)
But, yes, I would probably get over it with practice.
-JT