Family Court is the most unfair process you will ever have to deal with... pray you never have to. It is not designed to find a quick reasonable resolution to divorce, or protect the children... it it just an irrational mess that will leave everyone involved broken.
Had a brother-in-law go through this in the 90’s. The soon to be ex-wife was on crack, their infant baby had been given the drug and was rushed to the hospital at one point, the ex had no job or means of support and the brother-in-law was working, had no criminal record and a stable home. According to the judge unless the mom is caught in the act of using an illegal drug by law enforcement the mother gets the children.
For years he would go pick up the child on the weekend and and bring her home and his Mom would be waiting at the door and they would have to peel the clothes off this little girl and throw them away, take her straight to a bath and clean the layers of filth off her. She got to eat and sleep in a clean bed for two days and then back to hell. But the judge had the childs best interest at heart...
Family court, no kidding. My buddy was getting screwed over by his lying shrew wife. He asked me if I would be a witness to an event she completely miss categorized, being drunk verses being ill. My testimony was never taken into consideration albeit I was an expert in determining when someone is a drunk. When she left the court, she left him with nothing, except child support payments, and walked out with her tat boy friend and multi time convict lover.
Ever heard the comment that married women out live their husbands and ask why is that? The answer if the guy dies because he want to.