The reason I chuckled is because your experience isn't unique. I've heard stories very similar to yours before, with the exact same results.
Whatever else you do: don't be me. If you're with a woman who doesn't wrap her arms around you every once in awhile and tell you she loves you for what you think is no reason at all --- RUN AWAY.
I’ve read this thread with a lot of sadness. What is apparent is that there are a lot of wounded folks out there.
Your advice about when to run away is spot on. The couples I know that have good marriages that have lasted 25-30 years are the ones where they continue to display affection— like kissing each other good bye and hello each day. And that is normally done whether others are present or not. It’s the small kindnesses that are so important.
I have to wonder, though, if some of the tragedies discussed on this thread could—and maybe should— have been avoided before marriage was even considered. Courtship, in the traditional sense, should serve as a screening process.
I think one of the biggest problems today is that too many people get too physically involved too early in the courtship process. Sex is a very powerful experience, but it can sometimes cloud one’s judgment.
Trust me when I tell you that there are still wonderful, kind women in this country. It’s up to you to find them.