the author’s account is consistent both with my observations and speculations, as well as conversations I have had over the years. I think this is spot on, and likely, close to being a universal story of “gay” men, at least in the west.
I note that gender fluidity (as a political bludgeon at least) seems to be largely absent from impoverished nations where each day involves a struggle to reach the next day.
It’s a symptom/disease of affluence.