See my about me page. Just click on my name. You might be surprised. I am a good guy. My wife just took our dieing cat to bed with her. My heart is bleeding. I have to be the strong one. I look back and the cat is gasping, and walk over and pet and pet. She purrs when I touch her Nothing I can do, and it is killing me inside.
I bet you and your wife gave your cat a great life! Sorry for your sadness.
Been there...done that twice...It is heartbreaking...My sympathy to you both.