Its a mental illness. Their overall behavior is messed up.
A large plurality of mental-health professionals agree with you, notwithstanding 35 years of relentless political propagandization by Division 44 of the American Psychology Association.
Division 44 was specially set up to guarantee gay control of all professional guidance on the subject of homosexuality and paraphilia generally.
Divison 44 could best be described as the Human Rights Campaign's </off cant> version of the SS-Ahnenerben, which was in charge, under Heinrich Himmler, of ginning up Nazi fairy tales about the origins and nature of the German Volk.