I managed to squeak this one past the mods and overly sensitive once... it's entirely appropriate to your comment... so here goes nothing:
Posted on 10/04/2015 6:44:39 PM PDT by SeekAndFind
A new book claims that male office workers are now so afraid of being on the receiving end of a sexual harassment case, they are reluctant to mentor, assist, befriend and even hold open doors for female colleagues.
Crushingly, the book, Sex & The Office suggests men now view such ordinary, decent behaviours as “too risky” – and, in what will be a bitter irony for equality campaigners – claims that, as a direct consequence, women are now failing to advance at work.
This terror of being accused of sexual harassment is now so common it has its own term, “backlash stress”. It sounds like something straight out of a Claims Direct ad – where the only victims are men.
The book’s author, Kim Elsesser, a research scholar at the University of California, argues that a “sex partition” has sprung up, which impedes women from building the vital network of contacts both within the workplace and socially.
And the author should know about tough working environments: she’s a former equities trader at Morgan Stanley.
Tellingly, Elsesser adds that companies themselves are contributing to this mess, as they are now so terrified of legal action they send staff on sexual harassment training courses, and are duty-bound to follow up on any allegation, however minor.
Ludicrously, Elsesser cites examples of men who have been dragged in by their HR departments for simply opening a door for a female colleague or complimenting her on a new suit. “Stories like these spread around workplaces, instilling a fear that innocent remarks will be misinterpreted,” she says.
No s**t, Sherlock!
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My daughter, if I wasn’t bestowed with all boys, would have been raised like her mother who would literally walk into a door if it wasn’t opened for her. My daughter however would not have been a lib. Did you miss my point on that?
So what? American women don’t need men.
Lol, I have no idea what your talking about.
She must be an ME working at a Civil firm. I have found that CEs are especially uncivil.
I managed to squeak this one past the mods and overly sensitive once... it's entirely appropriate to your comment... so here goes nothing:
My co-worker and I have a habit of wearing the same colored khakis and same colored shirt to work sometimes. We laugh about it and then go back to our offices and work.
Haha.
Once, when I worked at a convenience store, I stopped in on my day off and was chatting with the clerk a bit. A cockroach appeared behind the counter. The clerk freaked out, wanted me to come kill the cockroach. I wouldn't, because it was a cockroach and I won't go near those things. So a male customer walked into the store and we got him to do the dirty deed. (I'm sure we made his day, killing cockroaches was probably the last thing on his mind when he entered the store.)
Does it rattle you if someone says "Ma'am"?
That one got me on the HR S*** List even after some one pointed out my mother's southern background (which catapulted me from Sexist to Red Neck)
I'm in the military, I expect to be called "Ma'am." People also call me by rank, or sometimes they call me "doctor."
I have no idea why calling someone "Ma'am" (or "Sir") would be an EO issue. I guess whoever found that offensive was not familiar with military discipline or basic politeness?
Same reason some don’t want to hire minorities cause if they turn out to be a bad employee and need to be fired, they scream racism and sue so why bother to hire in the first place.
They all act like “little girls” when they are actually treated by a man, like a man treats another man. Why can’t they just be women instead of Bi#$%@s? Megan Kelly a perfect example.
Couldn’t agree more. It’s nearly bi-polar the swings between trying to be more masculine than most men and then shrinking back like a waterlily after sunset. It’s bad for women and bad for men who are trying to deal fairly with women but don’t know how to any more.
It will be interesting to see what level support Camille Paglia gives Mrs. Bill “I sold missile-guidance technology to the ChiComs” Clinton if she is the candidate.
Hilary! represents everything about the strong woman that Paglia has despised for 20 years. If she turns around and supports her, it will be a sad bit of hypocrisy.
PC, like it’s progressive source, is base hypocrisy. All to bash white men, the ‘power’ they must ‘struggle against’. It is also cognitively dissonant; it damages what helps — white men provide jobs and security.
In the end, imo, leftists/proggies are mental adolescents trying to kick their fathers for not being allowed to run wild.
Which is fine. I just don’t get why complimenting people on the clothes they wear is even an issue. Or why it could cause problems and it does, or why people notice and actually say it lol. Again, I’m old.
No, manufacturing plant. But, I’ve heard engineering programs at colleges are trying to keep women and firms are too. It can be tough being the only female but as long as she does the work (as she did while in college and proved she wasn’t an AA hire - re got there because she was a woman) then she needs to just suck some of it up.
I’ve raised my girls in a different area/environment than where I grew up so they aren’t used to the more “earthy” part of life. But, they’re learning.
I bet. This is why, in today’s world, I think it’s best to just not compliment anyone at work on what they are wearing.
My former boss was obsessed with what his employees were wearing. It was weird. Why even comment, and make an issue of it rather than addressing any concerns with the people you actually have concerns about? And, why even comment on how great someone looks (as a boss). It’s just weird, imo.
Ok. I have no idea what YOU’RE talking about either. :)
It’s a sorry state that it’s become this.
Men and women are being taught from the time they are little children that they don’t need each other.
I guess I did miss your point on that. My mistake.
My daughters are taught not to walk into doors and to hold them open for everyone. They’re taught to give up their seat on the bus/train, etc. for anyone else (mother with kids, pregnant women, anyone older than them). They’re told to say Thank You when a door is held open for them.
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