The response I have for these people these days is one of the following:
1). “Are you doing this because I am gay?”
2) “Are you doing this because I’m transgender ?”
This flips the scales in my favor. Today you do not have to really be either you just have to identify that way at that moment. It really stops them in their tracks. I’m white and if I thought I could do it I would add the “Are you doing yhis because I’m a transgender black homosexual?” That’s like winning the trifecta at the Kentucky derby.
That sounds like a depressingly viable tactic.