[madmominct]

I went to church and just got angrier than I already was. During prayer and praise requests a woman raised her hand and proceeded to gush over what a historic week it was, and how proud she was that such a thing could happen in this country. The pastor tried to be as neutral as possible and said something like, our congregation’s feelings cover the spectrum on this issue, that we need to be compassionate and that our denomination is one of the few that attempts to “hold the tension” between the two sides. I left furious. One, that the woman who spoke just assumed that everyone agreed with her, and two, that the pastor did not articulate a clear position.

So when I got home I looked up the official position of the Evangelical Covenant Church, and found that it does affirm traditional marriage and does not allow same-sex unions to be performed. For now, at least. So I emailed the pastor and told her my feelings and fears, and that pretty soon it’s not going to be possible to “hold the tension”, as she put it, because the church will need to take a clear stand. If ministers are forced into performing gay “weddings” there’s no room for faking it. Besides, I’m not sure what “holding the tension” means, anyway. And how can Christians take any other view except that it’s wrong?

Anyway, I’m meeting with the pastor this morning to hash these things out. I’ll let you know what she said. This whole thing has me really distressed. I want to respond in the way Christ would, which I’m sure isn’t with the murderous rage I feel towards Obama, the SCOTUS, and the Left in general. If anyone has any suggestions to achieve “Serentity Now” I would appreciate them.

[Resettozero]

So I emailed the pastor and told her...

I think I may have found your congregation's problem in this matter.

[polymuser]

So I emailed the pastor and told her...

Um, don't get your hopes up at that congregation. Sorry.

[manc]

I left my church when they refused to stand up and speak about marriage a few years ago.

if they are too cowardly to mention marriage then they don’t get me in their building

[Rodamala]

I left furious.

I am not a church-goer, or very religious, so you can take this with a pillar of salt if you want, but no person should feel infuriated with the message the receive at their church. I honestly believe that you should write to, or call on your pastor and ask for his direct assessment on this issue. You should not feel that you are out of line in seeking out such a simple answer to such a simple question.

If what you are told leaves you feeling unsettled, or if you are still furious, please, leave that church while you are still free to do so.

I am not sure if others are saying this to you, or if they are directing you towards a new church already, but the best you may do is communicate with your pastor, ask the questions you need to have answered, and if it leaves you feeling enraged that your church has been invaded by sodomites, just walk away...

...and DON'T LOOK BACK.

[OSHA]

So I emailed the pastor and told --->her<--- my feelings and fears....

I think I see your problem here.

[campaignPete R-CT]

I always thought that church in Berlin was rather conservative. You must be somewhere near the coast. You’re not alone in this.

It’s distressing in CT, pathetic attitude in the churches.

[rollo tomasi]

“If anyone has any suggestions to achieve “Serentity Now” I would appreciate them.”

I suggest you find another Church.

Your Pastor should of rebuked the woman's praise per John 7:24, Matthew 7:5 (I assume you Pastor's “eye” is clear), Luke 6:43–45, 1 Cor. 5:11-13, Romans 16:17, James 4:17, etc...

[caww]

Your Pastor said....”our denomination is one of the few that attempts to “hold the tension” between the two sides”....

That is unsustainable. I would be interested in the outcome of your conversation with her. You are right to call her on it as hoped others did as well....