Yes, I can defend it. Suppressing the urge to be honestly nasty to others is a social virtue. Not having the urge to be nasty to others is a personal virtue. (The virtue of humility, to be precise). The latter is morally superior to the former, but the former is extremely beneficially if one is interested in a pleasant social environment.
“social virtue”
See, that’s where ya screwed up right there. No yankee is gonna have an inkling of what the heck that means. :)
You put it so well. Thank you.