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“I’m 45, female, and have been married since I was 27. Sorry if some of you have had bad experiences or are afraid of losing “half of your stuff” (which if you were in a true loving marriage you would admit “half your stuff” is your spouses, maybe that was one marriage problem right there!)”

Does it really matter what the facts on the ground are? The bottom line is there are 10 angry men for every angry woman after a divorce - and single guys see that and WANT NOTHING TO DO with marriage (generally speaking).

If the perception is not changed, then NOTHING will chance in our culture, men will still (rightly or wrongly) be scared to death regarding marrying American (and similar type women)...and marriage will continue to die on the vine.

Every party is hurt in a divorce, whether you want to believe it or not. Women aren't “happy” after a divorce. They try to move on just as men do. I keep hearing how women have changed and they've ruined marriage— men have changed as well. Many men seem to think they can get married and nothing has to change for them. They want the benefits of the woman working today, but also want the woman to do the traditional household chores and be a gourmet cook. Then, if they find a women willing to stay home and raise the kids or work p/t and it ends in divorce, they can't understand why a women should get any of “their stuff”.

I thought this was a conservative site. So many conversations about inner city black families with no father present and how it is affecting our country. And yet most people here are saying how horrible marriage is!

Just a tip to those that just can't seem to find “the one”— stop looking! When you least expect it love comes to you. And don't settle— anything that seems like a little problem or disagreement usually gets bigger over time. I have a friend from college who just can't understand why she can't find anyone— but she only looks in bars with guys looking for one night stands! I met my husband at work. I was his boss! It was a long process from meeting to marriage. I didn't do things just because I thought it would please him at the time. We got to know each other honestly. People like this are out there!