I've heard about the "third date rule," too, from friends who date. It seems that people today think there's something wrong with a person who chooses to abstain. As a parent, I worry about my sons growing up in this kind of culture.
It’s not easy raising sons in that regard...I raised two young men who seemed to do ok when it came to abstaining. I say ok because they aren’t going to broadcast ‘to mom’ what they do or don’t do.... It’s just not what young men “report” on to mothers in most cases.
Teach them how God views marriage, woman and relationships....as well that if they do choose to engage what the consequences and risks are.
My son asked once what if the girl gets pregnant, would they have to marry her. I said no, but they needed to understand that they would have to work to support their child above and beyond their own desire for “things”....then I listed what they would have to go without...in college they would have to work for their share of college expenses as well as for thier child...that time would be required for their relationship with that child. So by the time I went through all which would be required....it left NO life for them.
...Further that the child would be ‘MY’ Grandchild, so that they understood there were people involved in their risk then just them. ..... That if she was considering abortion I would fight in the courts for the life of ‘MY’ Grandchild and all the children that child would one day have and those thereafter.
I think when we share how their choices affect many and all...throughout the generations...it does leave an impression of what they need to prepare could occur...and where YOU stand in it.