One word: Custody.
Another word: Alimony.
Unless there are extreme circumstances such as the woman tried murdering one of the children (and even then) family courts all over the US automatically assume the woman is the better parent to have custody and that she should have alimony *and* child support. Even if she’s a drunk, drug addict, serial cheater who can’t hold a job, they’ll give the kids to her and bleed the man beyond white in transfer payments to her.
If, during the course of the divorce, she swears the man owns firearms and that he threatened her (even if he was out of the country, unable to contact her in any way at the time), the courts will automatically grant a restraining order for domestic violence against the man (which means there goes your security clearance and/or trusted position at private firms with moral character clauses) and the police will come seize all your firearms. Recent case in point: http://freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/3275173/posts
If that’s not bad enough, the courts will display similar behavior when the woman makes accusations of infidelity and domestic violence (even without firearms) - she will be believed even if she doesn’t present any proof whatsoever. If the man makes similar accusations, well, no amount of proof will be enough unless she admits it happened. And even then sometimes that’s not enough.
How do I know? I’m the child of one of these divorces. The court screwed up in awarding custody, quite badly. As such, I’ve watched the exact same thing happen to clients, friends and family over and over. Woman gets everything, man gets nothing.
” Woman gets everything, man gets nothing.”
My wife was put through hell by her ex.
Unfit mother ...
Used drugs ....
On and on. He had court papers served to her at work by uniformed police.
She finally got custody by agreeing to no child support and no alimony. He ended up with a daughter that asked her mother why ‘daddy’ didn’t live with them like her friends’ fathers did.
Amen, brother.
My dad was a real bastard until I actually asked him why he left.
He also reminded me that he knew EXACTLY what was going to happen if he left...and off to Vietnam Nam he went!
When a man would rather have little yellow people shoot at him than stay with your mom: that speaks to me!