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Perhaps Toya Graham may have started a trend with her tough love treatment that HOPEFULLY straightened her son out. And leave it to some White libs who think they know what's best for Black people (which in itself is an insidious form of racism) to be concerned with the kid's "emotional stability".
1 posted on 05/02/2015 10:21:11 PM PDT by Impala64ssa
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To: Impala64ssa

#1 problem. No dad there.

The police (state agents) are called by the woman to be the dad.

This is the liberal solution and they are just so damn happy it has worked out this way for this woman and child, and the millions of other families they’ve helped stay dysfunctional by their deliberate policies they’ve enacted in their 50 year WAR ON FAMILIES.


2 posted on 05/02/2015 10:23:43 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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Back in the old days there were fathers at home who scared their sons straight.


3 posted on 05/02/2015 10:25:53 PM PDT by Moonman62 (The US has become a government with a country, rather than a country with a government.)
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The problem is moms are not male fathers. They just cannot demand the respect of a puberty-riddled, smartass knowitall boy. They can embarrass him and plead to him and that might work. However it won’t get his respect and he will not fear them or respect them because he knows he’s stronger and if he really wanted to he could do whatever he wanted. Male fathers will not tolerate that crap and will beat the living crap out of them and then beat both the fear of God and common sense back into them. If that is what is required because the kid is that much of a brick head. Most don’t need such a harsh remedy. Most would see dad isn’t kidding and will see dad will put them down, and back down because they know they are not the alpha.

Women cannot be an alpha male. That is why there is so little success with urban black boys with no dads. It’s not possible for them to be that way. It’s like asking a dad to take on the alpha female role.

Course our stupid country will not let dads be dads anyway anymore. And so we end up with the Trayvons and the Freddies and the rest who run in feral gang thug packs seeking the approval of the substitute father alpha male gang leader.


4 posted on 05/02/2015 10:30:54 PM PDT by Secret Agent Man (Gone Galt; Not averse to Going Bronson.)
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Good. Tough love for fatherless boys is the best action a single Mom can take. We all know who the Mom-of-the-Year is from the video.

Why is the fact that so many black children that don't have fathers is not discussed? Oh right, that would be "racist".

Ya know what? I'm tired of ignoring that HUGE elephant in the room. It's been a long time fact that black men knock up black women and move on to their next piece of tail. What is wrong with black men? Why don't they have any sense of responsibility to their own children?

What? Their ancestors were oppressed so they think they can just walk away? Is that their excuse? If not, what the hell is their excuse for not supporting their own children??? I'm sick of black men not supporting their own children while they push and shove for the next Jordans.

Thanks a lot guys. I used to be on your side back when, you've shown me it was a waste of my time. You black men who leave their children are just awful. Hope you all die in some ally or shot down by your gangster Bros. FU all.

7 posted on 05/02/2015 10:44:28 PM PDT by A Navy Vet (An Oath is Forever)
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Considering some Nosy Nancy’s would report her to DCF if she spanked her child I think she did the perfect thing to enforce the notion of natural consequences


8 posted on 05/02/2015 10:45:10 PM PDT by Nifster
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Hill defended her stance, saying, “What I say to people that say I’m emotionally hurting my child or giving him a fear of law enforcement: He respects law and knows they’re there to help people, but he also knows they’re also there to show him the consequences of his action."

I have no problem with that. Some people, children included, can't see or hear a thing until they get smacked with a 2X4.

9 posted on 05/02/2015 10:49:35 PM PDT by TigersEye (STONE COLD ZOMBIE SCOURGE)
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maybe a little corporal punishment earlier would’ve stopped the disrepect now. Guess that’s old school parenting.


10 posted on 05/02/2015 10:49:41 PM PDT by RginTN
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Sounds like the old days...

My father used to tell me how the police, back in his day, would “scare” young boys with an “arrest” and a ride in the police car for, say, sneaking into a movie theater.

But, in this case, the problem is that there’s no father in the home. And, even with a father in the home, he would have to be a good father, or this boy still would lack a good role model.

I put my sons into church youth groups and in activities with strong male role models, such as scouts, etc. I hope these moms are looking into those things, too.


11 posted on 05/02/2015 10:54:24 PM PDT by Tired of Taxes
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Let's do follow-ups every month for a year.

The police are not a father for single mothers.

There is no substitute, get married to a decent man and respect him as head of your household, i.e., accept that he has the authority and responsibility over your children because they are of his household.

Exodus 20:12 "Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee."

Proverbs 13:24 "He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes."

Proverbs 22:15 "Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him."

Proverbs 23:13-14 "Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell."

Proverbs 29:15 "The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame."
24 posted on 05/03/2015 1:36:30 AM PDT by PieterCasparzen (Do we then make void the law through faith? God forbid: yea, we establish the law.)
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I stopped reading at the first word: Chiquita
That's all I needed to know.
25 posted on 05/03/2015 2:21:35 AM PDT by Veggie Todd (The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants. TJ)
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God bless this mom, the officers, and her lucky little boy for waking up.


28 posted on 05/03/2015 3:55:33 AM PDT by b9 (II Timothy 1:7)
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I’m hoping this becomes a trend. I think most peope are sick and tired of he ghetto / thug culture which has everything to do with all the riots the past few years. Fathers on the scene would definitely curtail it as long as they’re not thugs themselves.


29 posted on 05/03/2015 3:59:49 AM PDT by jsanders2001
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Perhaps a tragedy has taken their father and her husband, but I can’t help thinking that’s not the case. It’s a shame that this had to happen, because it reinforces the state “fathering” children. It’s the commie concept of it takes a village.


33 posted on 05/03/2015 4:52:23 AM PDT by goodwithagun (My gun has killed fewer people than Ted Kennedy's car.)
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To: Impala64ssa

Where’s the father?


37 posted on 05/03/2015 6:06:55 AM PDT by SamAdams76
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Several issues pop up with this scenario.

First, the obvious lack of a father figure explains this mom's difficulty.

Second, there is no mention made of plans for responsible follow up by any of the male sperm donors, or potential father figures who are related -- or even some faith clergy offering routine faith guidance.

This temporary disciplinary result will fade quickly once these fatherless children get wind of their story going viral, particularly because of the current racially driven anti-police climate - the potential for this effort to backfire badly is yet a sad possibility.

38 posted on 05/03/2015 6:17:36 AM PDT by wtd
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Ten years ago, my family was torn apart by the molestation of my young daughter by a family friend, which lead to divorce. It was horrible. She was living with me (mom) and angry. Her dad was no help at all. We were both in counciling (it can help), but she decided one day that she wasn’t going to go and got pretty belligerent. I gave her the choice; either get in my car or I would call the sheriff and they could take her. She didn’t believe me, so I called and they came. They talked to her, then she got in my car.

They told me that they would much rather help at that point rather that down the road if/when things got worse.

It made quite an impression on her, and she has never forgotten it and told me several times that it is one of the best things I had ever done for her.

She is now 23, a smart kid who finished school, went on to college, is responsible and conservative. She learned that ultimately she was responsible for her behavior and it’s outcome. She won’t put up with friends that blame everyone else for their problems either. And at her age in this generation, that is quite a few.

I say good for that mom. She loves her kid, because that isn’t an easy thing to do.


39 posted on 05/03/2015 6:21:40 AM PDT by kevslisababy
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Geraldo did a point / counterpoint type piece last night on Fox News. A black woman and a black man. The woman advocated for two parent homes and raising children to present as respectable human beings. She was articulate, clear and logical (talked white, I guess is the common parlance)

The man dismissed that... "can't make that happen with a magic wand." His solution was mentoring...getting fraternities and sororities (I infer these to be community organizations) to step in in loco parentis. His solution seemed to be anything BUT two parent families.

The woman pointed out how strange was the uproar over Freddie Gray in light of, I believe eight young black males being killed by black males in Baltimore in the past week. And that for the first time in history, the leading cause of 12 year old black males is murder.

It was a pretty good back and forth, except Gerry interrupted in the middle to run a different piece on rebuilding neighborhoods burned out in 1968. I believe I heard him say that she had been a caller on his radio show. She was awesome. One last thing I recall...She and her HUSBAND raised a son in NYC who had never been accosted, questioned, patted down or arrested. She stated that that raising included teaching their son to act as a respectable human being in the way he dressed, spoke and interacted with other human beings.

40 posted on 05/03/2015 6:23:14 AM PDT by don-o (He will not share His glory and He will NOT be mocked! Blessed be the name of the Lord forever!)
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Too bad she couldn’t just say “wait til your Dad gets home”.

Oh wait there is no DAd.


43 posted on 05/03/2015 9:53:39 AM PDT by Georgia Girl 2 (The only purpose o f a pistol is to fight your way back to the rifle you should never have dropped.)
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