“...It’s really frustrating...”
I can “hear” it n your comment, I know. You are not alone there.
I was brought up to hit back and hit back hard. I also understand that there’s a time to engage, and a time to move to a better tactical position to be able to engage at a time of your choosing.
But his lack of ANY engagement - especially in his own defense - has always been a source of .. disappointment and irritation to me.
No quarrel with you, brother. Same page.
I was brought up to hit back and hit back hard.
Me, too. (I was born in 1951-Dad was a World War II vet, “Yes sir, no sir” discipline, respect, honesty, honor, stand up for yourself, love of country, etc., etc.)
Glad to be on the same page with you.