A lot of California patriots gave the last full measure of service to their country and their home state in American wars. They're buried all over that land.
Are you going to explain to them that they died in vain?
p.s. All four of my grandparents and some of my great grandparents are also buried there.
The world is littered with the bodies of those who fought what was right, and their sacrifice is never in vain. But many of those fought for countries long forgotten and abandoned by their progeny.
What California is now is no longer what you family fought for. For that matter, what our country is now is no longer what you family fought for.
The great divorce will come soon. Whether peaceably, or with rancor, it will come.