People say a lot of things after someone has died, especially when they are young and it is a violent death. I’m guessing that there is much denial, much guilt, and much anger being dealt with by the family. She did what she wanted to do and they have to cope with the aftermath.
They had someone from her group give the first speech about her in the family conference. I think it was Reverend Katherine Day.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2947697/Parents-American-ISIS-hostage-26-confirm-death.html
I believe this may be the organization.
http://presbypeacefellowship.org/ppfresponds#.VNqQiKw5CUk
Rev. Day is one of the signatures.
Rev. Kathleen Day, Campus Minister, Northern Arizona University
She kept smiling during her talk and looked like she was having a great day bringing up their peace and justice mission.