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Islamic Polygamy Survival Guide: A Co-wife’s Experience
On Islam ^ | January 26, 2015 | Dhakiyya Gomm

Posted on 02/07/2015 9:37:08 PM PST by 2ndDivisionVet

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To: 2ndDivisionVet
Genesis II:24...

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

This is singular, not plural.

Isaac and Rebecca.

21 posted on 02/07/2015 10:32:14 PM PST by onedoug
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To: onedoug

That’s correct.

Abraham and Sarah both created the one problem where Hagar was concerned, by not believing God.

Jacob ended up with four wives and quite a bit of heartache before he could spiritually overcome. (Not sure if this is where Mahomet pilfered the idea for his “four wives” rule.)


22 posted on 02/07/2015 10:38:47 PM PST by Olog-hai
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To: onedoug

but then again, there were Abraham, David, Jacob and Moses...

(as for me, one is plenty challenging enough! No advocacy here for plural marriage...)


23 posted on 02/07/2015 10:42:14 PM PST by faithhopecharity ((Brilliant, Profound Tag Line Goes Here, just as soon as I can think of one.)
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To: onedoug

ps: sorry we forgot to mention Solomon!


24 posted on 02/07/2015 10:43:00 PM PST by faithhopecharity ((Brilliant, Profound Tag Line Goes Here, just as soon as I can think of one.)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

The left wing mass media is already promoting polygamy...

http://www.cnn.com/2014/01/15/opinion/hardy-plural-marriage/


25 posted on 02/07/2015 10:45:38 PM PST by faithhopecharity ((Brilliant, Profound Tag Line Goes Here, just as soon as I can think of one.)
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To: bluejean
How come Mashallafallaballadalla can’t have two hubbies? Just sayin’

Why? Because guys would go "Yeah, right, good luck with that" while (some) women would apparently go "Co-wife? Yeah, sign me up for that!"

26 posted on 02/07/2015 10:50:21 PM PST by Larry Lucido
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To: bluejean

“Interesting how this is always the randy male taking on multiple females”

The reason for this, which a muslim told me, is because of inheritance issues. If there is one father, all the kids are his, and it is obvious who the mother is through her pregnancy.

If a women has multiple husbands though, there will be great doubt and arguments over who is the father, and who inherits which man’s property.

Anyhow, in Muhammed’s case, he did not rise to power until he was in his mid 50’s, and well into his 60’s when he died. Most of his marriages were then (many for political purposes), when he was losing his sexual potency. Apparently, he was henpecked and ridiculed quite a bit by his wives for not being able to satisfy them. This seems to have led to his death, when 16 year young Aisha (whom he married around age six) had an affair with a young man.

Aisha was the daughter of Muhammad’s wealthy and powerful patron, Abu Bakr (who became Caliph after Muhammad). When Muhammad publicly kicked Aisha out for infidelity, this threatened Abu Bakr’s claim to the Kingdom after Muhammad. Under pressure, Muhammad accepted Aisha back after three months, to make sure she wasn’t pregnant; but began plotting and positioning to set up his cousin, nephew and son-in-law (I’m not making that up) Ali to inherit the crown.

Abu Bakr, and his ally Umar found out about this, and made a failed attempt on Muhammad’s life as he returned from a raid. Muhammad quickly came out and declared that God wanted Abu Bakr and Umar to lead a jihad into Syria right away - about as far away as he could send them, and against the greatest force. They delayed their departure, during which time Muhammad succumbed to a bad case of poisoning. He tried to call for someone to write down his last words, but Umar held everyone else out until Muhammad had died, with his head in Aisha’s lap. (Umar later became Caliph after Abu Bakr).

A few months later (some say 75 days after Muhammad’s death), while arguing over inheritance and succession, Umar fatally wounded Muhammad’s only daughter Fatima, who was Ali’s wife (and visibly pregnant at the time).

So there is plenty of room for soap opera in polygamous marriages, even if one does follow the quran and the example of the prophet quite closely...


27 posted on 02/07/2015 10:50:26 PM PST by BeauBo
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To: faithhopecharity
I agree, I can only handle one. I can't imagine a honey-do list from several women. Really, a second wife. I'm tired thinking about it.
28 posted on 02/07/2015 10:55:05 PM PST by poinq
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To: faithhopecharity
They promote anything sexual, no matter how vile. I read this not too long ago.. it was incredibly sad: 5 Things I Learned as a Mormon Polygamist Wife
29 posted on 02/07/2015 10:56:41 PM PST by Trillian
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To: Yossarian; 2ndDivisionVet
"Since men and women are born in equal proportions, polygamy creates an imbalance that results in a) many single, angry men,..."

"... and b) women that get treated like possessions>"

Gee. Too bad we can't cite examples..... {;^)

30 posted on 02/07/2015 10:59:28 PM PST by shibumi ("Walk through the fire - Fly through the smoke")
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To: bluejean

Actually, Mormon polygamy allowed all your wives to have multiple husbands

Just think of how fast VD would spread


31 posted on 02/07/2015 11:09:22 PM PST by GeronL
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To: pepsionice
The question is this...if you opened the door to threesome marriages or polygamy....how many folks would show up in the next month to get a license and married in such a fashion? I think this is the curious part of the approaching evolution.

Probably not much.
The thing to realize is that a lot of this isn't part of a popular movement but being pushed by the elites: just look at how they strike down States defining legitimate marriage [even CA did this!] using single federal judges. — It's all part of the narrative.

32 posted on 02/07/2015 11:11:01 PM PST by OneWingedShark (Q: Why am I here? A: To do Justly, to love mercy, and to walk humbly with my God.)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

It’s wrong and it’s sick. Besides that, her comments about how difficult it is for the husband because he must provide for and keep everyone happy is another reason it does not work and cannot be a good for society: Most polygamous marriages are mired in poverty, financial, spiritual and emotional poverty. It is not the ideal, and not God’s ideal; another reason why Allah is inferior to our God.


33 posted on 02/07/2015 11:12:58 PM PST by punditwannabe
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

The references to various problems that may arise suggests that Muslims know well that polygamy is fraught with difficulties.


34 posted on 02/07/2015 11:14:00 PM PST by Rockingham
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To: Trillian

Yup. Sex sells, news doesn’t.
Here is today’s mass media story (or at least one of them, I’ve selected a relatively ‘tame’ one so not to seer anyone’s eyes here)

http://www.mercurynews.com/celebrities/ci_27475415/jennifer-lawrence-gets-naked-boa-constrictor

Now, that sells a whole lot more than, say, a big long investigative report trying to find out the real name, nationality, and financial backing of a certain high-up politician in chief


35 posted on 02/07/2015 11:14:30 PM PST by faithhopecharity ((Brilliant, Profound Tag Line Goes Here, just as soon as I can think of one.)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet

She goes on and on about her ideal life. But I bet deep down she knows this is a disaster waiting to happen.


36 posted on 02/07/2015 11:25:47 PM PST by JennysCool (My hypocrisy goes only so far)
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To: 2ndDivisionVet
[...] one person in the marriage was not following the Qur’an and Sunnah, usually the husband.

Always the guy's fault.

37 posted on 02/07/2015 11:31:22 PM PST by FredZarguna (O, Reason not the need.)
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[...] one person in the marriage was not following the Qur’an and Sunnah, usually the husband.

Always the guy's fault.

38 posted on 02/07/2015 11:31:22 PM PST by FredZarguna (O, Reason not the need.)
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To: BeauBo
He tried to call for someone to write down his last words,

No need. They're well known.

"B!tch set me up..."

39 posted on 02/07/2015 11:34:32 PM PST by FredZarguna (O, Reason not the need.)
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To: JennysCool

I’m really hoping this is a parody. Can you imagine the disaster this situation would incur?


40 posted on 02/07/2015 11:37:01 PM PST by The Right Stuff
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