Got it.
Thanks!
McCarter went to Bishop McDevitt High School in Steelton, PA, a borough Harrisburg, PA
http://www.gpo.gov/fdsys/pkg/CREC-1994-03-24/html/CREC-1994-03-24-pt1-PgE.htm
The funeral was at Holy Name of Jesus
http://www.hooverfuneralhome.com/fh/print.cfm?type=obituary&o_id=1160690&fh_id=10954
Bishop McDevitt High School & Holy Name of Jesus are not that far from each other.
I have no doubt that McCarter and Bosman are or were married.
From the GPO link: Jeremy plans a career in government foreign service or international law.
While McCarter is a theater critic and writer, in high school he wanted a very different career. People and circumstances do change, certainly, but I wouldn’t rule out some involvement with government. Particularly since he seems to disappear in DC. Perhaps he’s with the State Department or even CIA. Or a contractor to some agency.