Posted on 11/05/2014 11:24:24 AM PST by wagglebee
I recently spoke at an amazing pro-life conference in Washington State. After my talk, I had a woman come up to me and tell me that I should really tone down my message. She said that she is sure that my message will offend people. She said that I should try to find “common language” with those who support abortion.
Okay, let’s explore that.
“Common language” sounds nice, but when you actually look at the differences behind that language, you see it just isn’t possible. Here are eight reasons why finding a "common language" with pro-aborts is impossible:
1. When I say, “I want women to have access to authentic female healthcare,” I mean that I want women to have access to healthcare that supports their natural femininity. I mean that I want women to have access to healthcare that doesn’t include the use of contraception and abortion.
Maybe it’s time to worry less about delivering watered down messages and speak truth in love without compromise.
When an abortion supporter says, “I want women to have access to authentic female healthcare,” they mean that they believe women should have easy (and free) access to pills that suppress their fertility. They mean that they believe that taking the lives of unborn children is part of healthcare.
2. When I say, “I want women to have control over their bodies,” I mean that I want women to know and embrace their fertility. I want women to value their bodies, not simply be seen as a sex object. I want women and men to understand the dignity of their sexuality. I want women to understand that the most beautiful thing a woman’s body does is to grow other human beings.
When an abortion supporter says, “I want women to have control over their bodies,” that is a rallying cry for abortion. They mean that women should be able to control and kill the separate human being in their body. They mean that they want women to hate their fertility, to see it as enslavement, and in response to that, to “fix” their unbroken fertility with pills and other invasive methods of birth control.
3. When I say, “I want women to be safe,” I mean that women deserve better than abortion. I mean that I want women to stay away from abortion because it is not safe for them. I want women to understand the physical and emotional consequences related to abortion.
When an abortion supporter says, “I want women to be safe,” they mean that they want women to have unlimited access to abortion services without any additional barriers…even if those barriers are there to protect women.
4. When I say, “I want women to choose what’s best for them,” I mean that I want women to make choices that don’t involving harming themselves or killing another human being. I want women to know that there are other choices besides abortion…choices they can live with and have no regret.
When an abortion supporter says, “I want women to choose what’s best for them,” they almost always mean abortion. Abortion supporters have attempted to normalize abortion in a way that makes it seem “okay” to take the life of another human being. They aren’t interested in a woman actually making a choice. They are interested in women having abortions.
5. When I say, “I want us to take care of children,” I mean that we should take care of all children…born and unborn. I mean that we should all stand up for those in our foster care systems. I mean that we should sacrifice our luxuries for children and their mothers.
When an abortion supporter says, “I want us to take care of children,” they mean that we should only care for those who are already born. And what they really mean is that it is only the pro-life movement’s responsibility to care for children in foster care. They mean that it’s only our responsibility to provide for women and their children. They mean that they are not willing to sacrifice their own luxuries, but we are to sacrifice ours.
6. When I say, “I stand for equal rights,” I mean equal rights for all persons…from the moment of conception until natural death. I mean that I believe in the equal human dignity of all persons, no matter the “contribution” they make to society.
When an abortion supporter says, “I stand for equal rights,” they mean that they only stand for the rights of those who are contributors to society. They are quick to marginalize the most vulnerable among us: the unborn, the elderly and the differently-abled.
7. When I say, “I am for choice,” I mean that I am for choices that don’t involve killing a human being. I mean that I support women making wise choices before they get pregnant. I am for women choosing to make adoption plans, choosing to be single parents, choosing to marry the father of their child and raising that child together, choosing to still pursue a career and education after having a child, choosing to ask their parents and support system for help when raising their child.
When an abortion supporter says, “I am for choice,” they really only mean the choice of abortion. Period.
8. When I say, “I want women to feel empowered,” I mean that I want women to embrace their bodies, their fertility and their children. I want women to know that they don’t have to choose between their baby and their education…that they don’t have to choose between their baby and a career…that they don’t have to choose between their baby and a man. I want women to know that there are hundreds of people who will support them in their decision to parent or place their child for adoption. I want them to know that abortion strips you of your power. I want them to know that empowerment does not come from pitting a woman against her child.
When an abortion supporter says, “I want women to feel empowered,” they mean that women are too weak to be moms and complete their education. They mean that you have to choose between being a mom and having a successful career. They mean that they actually have no idea what empowerment really is.
Abby, how can you possibly say these things? How can you possibly know what abortion supporters mean when they say these things??
Well, because I have said these things on both sides of this issue. I know the meaning behind these phrases as an abortion supporter, because I was one for eight years.
I speak on this issue because I get it. I get how people are blinded by language. And honestly, I get how people are blinded by our desire to “meet in the middle.” But when you look at the reality of abortion, there is no middle ground. You either support the killing of the unborn or you don’t. There is no grey area.
How do we convert people? How do we help them see that the meaning behind our language is totally different?
Well, we just speak charitable truth. We love people. And sometimes that truth and love offends. We have to be okay with that.
Maybe it’s time to worry less about delivering watered down messages and speak truth in love without compromise. Maybe we should worry less about offending those who are far away from the truth. Maybe we should worry more about being compassionate, loving and planting seeds of truth…even if it’s a hard truth.
I say it’s time to stop apologizing for delivering our message of truth. I will never be sorry for speaking the truth in love.
--- difference between rhythm and NFP -----
There's a LOT of material there.
Basic difference is that "rhythm" was:
Natural Family Panning is different on every count. It is:
Google. Read and learn.
I mean people in power using the rule of.law to enforce their beliefs..
Please explain.
Yea I know how to google.
Here’s also something I know. I know you and Lifesite took a rabid anti-abortionist and made him into a rabid anti-lifsite’er. Congratulations.
It’s no wonder that ya’ll have had no impact on the amount of abortions performed. I asked about weather or not you support taking away contraception an the next thing I know I’m a pro-abortionist, know nothing about contraception, am stuck in the 70’s, and have no right to ask about the statements made by “Abby” the author of this article. That’s fine. I won’t make that mistake again.
I was warned, by private message from a long term member not to get into a conversation with ya’ll. He said you actually didn’t want to prevent abortions, you just wanted the cause. Boy, was he right.
Personally, I think if you want to prevent abortions, and you think abortion is murder, then you need to treat abortionist’s like the murderers they are. That would, IMO, do more than a whole lot of talk. I’ve already, in an earlier thread, admitted I’m a coward. Why can’t ya’ll just admit you are full of B.S?
So, ya’ll think I’m an abortion supporter. Then you can just Kiss My Ass.
Ms Don O. My dad is a Pediatrician. My Mom graduated Summa Cum Laude from a prestigious Private college. They got married while dad was in med school. We moved to my town when I was 1 y.o. I have, or had, 3 brothers. I say had cause 1 died in ‘86 from a brain tumor.
Here’s the way I learned “the facts of life”. My mom ordered a series of books. Can’t remember the titles but they were about sex and relationships. When I, we (I’m the oldest) got home from school we were required to read them. And then we were tested, by my Mom, on each chapter. Mortifying to start, but after awhile it was kinda like being in Science class. And I really liked science. I’ve forgotten more about “how not to get a girl pregnant” than most will ever know.
BTW, I learned to read by reading my dad’s Medical Journals. I was fascinated by anatomy and I still, 45 years later know more than most folks have ever learned.
So, I know that doesn’t mean much to you. What it should mean is you and yours should not alienate your allies. For some reason I don’t think you’ll ever get it.
Where did I say you know nothing about contraception?
Where did I say you have no right to ask about the statements made by “Abby” the author of this article?
These reactions, I assume, are directed to me because they were in response to mine at #41. But I didn't say any of these things.
That leaves me in the awkward position of having to either take back or defend things I didn't say. This I can't do. A pleasant evening to you.
No, I was including Mr. Louis Foxwell when I said “ya’ll”
Quote: You may claim to be against abortion but your words do not reflect it
Maybe you don’t agree with Mr Foxwell? Maybe you don’t have enough information. Maybe Mr. foxwell is just an ass? Maybe I mistakenly included you and Mr Foxwell to be of the same mind? Maybe I’m mistaken and you have no relationship to Mr Foxwell?
Whatever. And believe it or not, I do know “how to google”.
I just didn’t see the need, as for about the past, I don’t know, several thousand years, women have been getting pregnant, or not, in exactly the same way. There are just some things you don’t need to google.
Natural Family Planning is a far cry from the old rhythm method.
The Generosity of Catholic Family Planning
Young Catholic Women Try To Give Church’s Position On Birth Control New Sheen
Essays for Lent: Natural Family Planning
Divorce Rate Comparisons Between Couples Using NFP & Artificial Birth Control
'Amazing Grace for Those Who Suffer'
Natural and Unnatural (father of 5 shocks mother of 1)
NFP — It Ain’t Your Momma’s Rhythm
Responsible Parenthood in a Birth Control Culture, Part Two [Open]
Responsible Parenthood in a Birth Control Culture, Part One [Open]
Contraception v. Natural Family Planning — Part 5 of 6 [Open]
Journey to the Truth (Natural Family Planning) [Open]
Enslaving Women One Pill at a Time (Birth Control Pills and Natural Family Planning)
New Study Shows Natural Family Planning Technique More “Effective” Than Contraception
Fargo) Diocese set to require pre-marriage course in natural family planning
Making Babies: A Very Different Look at Natural Family Planning
Clerical Contraception (Important Read! By Fr. Thomas J. Euteneuer)
(Fargo) Diocese set to require pre-marriage course in natural family planning
Natural Family Planning Awareness Week, July 25, 2004
IS NATURAL FAMILY PLANNING A 'HERESY'? (Trads, please take note)
Thanks Doc: More (and Younger) Doctors Support Natural Family Planning
Couple say Natural Family Planning strengthens marriage
Reflections: Natural family planning vs sexism
British Medical Journal: Natural Family Planning= Effective Birth Control Supported by Catholic Chrch
Natural Family Planning
Lose your meds, again?
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