Ah. Dementia-borne worries from out of the blue on top of everything else you’re dealing with?
If she refuses to drop the matter of the 2nd bathroom lock and other issues, it might be a worthy compromise to accomodate her.
It is not my purpose to intrude or interject myself, adding to your burdens, Kathy. I’ll not argue, only adding that her fears are not logical. Except to her they are. So if giving her a sliding bolt to twiddle with eases that issue (Discard the screws and simply nail in the receiver/catch so if you have to kick in the door it won’t tear up the door trim.) - Well, when you look back on your Mom’s last days, as we all will have to do, do you want memories of exasperation & anger on both sides from trying to make her understand your logic; or do you want to be able to smile & admit to the niggling, silly remedies to which you resorted to keep peace in the house? Things that, in the future, bring a smile to your face as you recount them?
I think I’m looking at this ahead with my father. It seems I’m repeatedly answering the same question on handyman issues in my home that a mere 5 years ago would never have fazed him. Or having to explain why I choose a certain bit of hardware over another (I insist on double cylinder locks because all my doors have glass, for the umpteenth time!) and of course for me to reveal frustration with what to him is an honest question hurts his feelings, wounds his pride because he definitely suspects subpar brainage* and leaves me feeling ashamed afterwards for bullying my own beloved father.
brainage* (Yes, I know that’s not a word. Yet oddly you know what I meant, so who’s wrong? P;-)
Love you kiddo. Hang in there!
Good evening, Titan....I’m learning to not say anything, just let it go if it’s not safely related. My sister and I already talked about just making a sign when she comes in a couple weeks and will be “living” downstairs while she’s here.
I think letting her have her sign will let the lock idea go. I’ll have to remember about nails and screws.
I’ve been dealing with repeating EVERYTHING for a while. I finally got her to go for a hearing test JUST FOR A BASELINE. The doc said she needs hearing aids, but she says no. I make sure I’m facing her when repeating.
Brainage is a good word, and fits the situation quite well.
“Outside” advice is a good thing. Thanks. I’m hanging. d:o)
((HUGS))