I think you have to resign yourself to these types of things. It sucks, but it is reality.
When we started the fight it was so we could get Dad out of the home. He really wasn’t far enough along to belong there. Besides he had enough income and money that he could have stayed in his home (which is what he told us he wanted to do) and hired care. As the case progressed we found out that she had stolen the money. Regardless of who was the trustee hubby was still supposed to get half so that wasn’t the purpose for the suit.