Parents Abandon Mentally Disabled Baby, Tell Surrogate Mom: “We Don’t Want a Dribbling Cabbage”

Life News ^ | 8/26/14 | Steven Ertelt

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After the worldwide storm over baby Gammy, a child with Down Syndrome whose parents abandoned him with the surrogate mother after he and his twin sister were born, another case of baby abandonment has cropped up.

Another surrogate mother of twin babies got word from the babies’ parents that they would abandon one of the children because of a disability. The baby was born with Congential Myotonic Dystrophy and rejected by the child’s parents. The birth mother is now raising the child as her own after the callous reaction.

Here’s more on what’s happened, warning for strong language:

A British surrogate mother says she will raise a disabled girl as her own after the baby’s intended mother said she didn’t want a ‘dribbling cabbage’ as her child.

The child, born with Congenital Myotonic Dystrophy, was one of twins the surrogate mother was paid £12,000 in expenses to give birth to.

The story shows remarkable similarities to that of baby Gammy, a Down’s syndrome baby born to a Thai surrogate mother, who claimed he was left behind by its intended Australian parents because he was mentally disabled.

A British surrogate mother, who to protect her identity has only been named as Jenny, has now told The Sun of the callous way the parents of the girl she gave birth to with Congenital Myotonic Dystrophy reacted when they heard the news he was disabled.

The baby twin has been kept by the surrogate mother after its healthy brother was taken by the intended parents, who showed remarkable callousness in rejecting its sibling.

She told the paper: ‘I remember her saying to me, “She’d be a f****** dribbling cabbage. Who would want to adopt her?”

‘She had basically told me she didn’t want a disabled child.’

Jenny and her partner are now raising the child as their own, while the baby’s twin brother lives with the couple’s originally intended parents.

Leading pro-life bioethicist Wesley Smith responded to the situation.

“Why should we be surprised? Surrogacy and IVF are increasingly not about having a baby to love unconditionally, but having a baby the parents think worthy of love,” he said. “I hope the surrogate loves the child for life. But the biological parents should pay support!”

“And why should biological parents be treated by law any differently just because a surrogate was employed then if the woman gave birth herself?” Smith added. “In any event, shame on them.”

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The "parents" are unfit to raise ANY children, healthy or otherwise.

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[miss marmelstein]

As my old boss at New York Hospital would say when faced with a particularly sad story about children: “Poor baby. Poor, poor baby.”

[PATRIOT1876]

A lack of respect for human life begins with the teaching of the psuedo-science of evolution.

[jsanders2001]

This really pisses me off. I’m sure the Left has a solution for this; genetically modified babies that are all gender with both penises and vaginas so the gay population no longer has to pay for and adopt children. Now they can molest them straight out of womb; no waiting periods.../s

[Wuli]

same all around

[longtermmemmory]

how was this missed in the womb? they test for these issues.

[jocon307]

These surrogates better start getting some iron clad contracts drawn up. Not that I approve of this at all, but nevertheless, you sign up for 9 months of pregnancy and then find yourself having to keep the child, and a disabled child; that 12K is looking pretty inadequate.

I hope this woman and the other woman sue these people within an inch of their lives.

[SevenofNine]

Be honest there are some people like this couple who shouldn’t been parents

Maybe their gentric code cause their baby to be before they so called defect don’t put blame on surrogate

[ntnychik]

(How was this missed in the womb? They have tests for that.)

And then what?

My grandson was born with spina bifida that slipped through the testing. The docs and nurses felt so bad because “something could have been done”. There is in-vitro surgery that can help, but they didn’t mean that.

He was hidden behind a curtain in the nursery, but we peeked and all fell in love at first sight. He presented different issues to contend with, but everyone in both families set about learning what to do, and enriching his life in many ways. He rewarded us daily with smiles, kisses and hugs.

Then he developed autism. He, and we, realized the differences and set about communicating however we could. He related to singing, and could quickly memorize even lengthy songs with many verses. Eventually he showed he was trying to express himself. His first words, at age 5, both to his Mother and separately to me were, “Thank you for taking care of me.”

Now he’s six, looking forward to first grade. He’s been read to since the beginning. Eventually he could “read” familiar books, based on his memorization ability. So we were shocked two weeks ago when he picked up from the table and read a two page greeting card printed in cursive. Since then, I’ve seen him read about 30 story books that he’d never seen before. He’s now trying to put expression into his reading.
He’s exceptionally good with pattern puzzles, and sings beautifully, on key. Walking will take a while, and he’ll never do it without a limp, but who cares?

He’s given back to family, friends, teachers, aides and bus drivers far more than any of us ever felt we put in. It first took acceptance, love, work with little reward other than his very existence, and belief/faith. I know our story can’t be everyone’s. Many people travel a much harder road. The surrogates who kept the “defective” twins are the ones who will be generously blessed.

[AppyPappy]

I would rather they give up the child than kill it.

[Black Agnes]

Ok, this is what I find about CONGENITAL myotonic dystrophy:

“Congenital myotonic dystrophy is the early childhood form of myotonic dystrophy. It occurs only when the mother already has myotonic dystrophy. The condition is usually identified at birth or soon after; myotonic means “involving muscle stiffness”; and dystrophy, “muscle wasting and weakness”. This condition is rare.”

So the question becomes, did the egg come from the ‘adoptive’ mother or the surrogate. Because whoever provided the egg for this baby already has this condition.

[potlatch]

You have shared all of this with me. He is a beautiful and intelligent child and God blessed him greatly by giving him such a loving mother and grandmother!

The perfect example of what love and caring can do...

[Louis Foxwell]

The egg, of course, is from the biological mother. She is the self loathing harridan who hates her own progeny.

[Black Agnes]

Usually but not always. Sometimes ‘surrogates’ just get the turkey baster treatment.

Either way, someone knew they had it before the pregnancy began. From what I read anyways.

(I read it on the internet it must be true!)

[ntnychik]

My reply should have referenced possible in-utero surgery, not in-vitro. Sorry for the error.

The story has continued with the birth of a girl, three years younger, named for RWR. She and her brother have formed quite a team, teaching and encouraging each other in their own ways, and having all the wonderful play and occasional disputes that siblings typically have.

[potlatch]

Wonderful to see the love between them!
They’ve been taught well.