[FR_addict]

“Love isn’t the issue. This has been studied forever. Humans need a mother and a father. Children not raised in families (mother & father) generally are handicapped by it. Once the children suffer, the society they inhabit suffer. Inner city mothers love their children, it doesn’t change the outcome. Money isn’t a substitute for a mother and father.”

Of course children are better off having a mother and a father who both love them, but a child raised in a loving family with a mother and supportive grandparents can be just as well off. It is very possible that this young girl will find someone to love both her and her baby, especially with a family support system. Taking your theory a little further, if a mother of young children were to get a divorce, the children would be better off if she gave them up for adoption. Hog wash. What about widows? I guess they should give up their young babies too.

[Varda]

Your failure to understand doesn't relieve the situation of it's reality. Like I said this has been studied for decades. Children of divorce are damaged by it , the logical solution to destructive behavior it is to discourage it not to delete the only parent left. Widows are not single parents. They and their results cluster with other married parents.

Children "raised in a loving family with a mother and supportive grandparents can be just as well off."

Except they aren't. They are outliers that do well but in general what you get is inner city America.

That children need a mother and a father cannot be equated to an “emotional support structure” . That's the kind of reasoning behind gay marriage and gay adoptions.