But if they won't refer to me by the term I want used for me and those like me, why should I refer to them by what they want?
I'm heterosexual and they are homosexual; hetero and homo. What's the problem, have they changed the clinical names?
actually, they are Queer.
Queers are deviant but they hate being segregated by being called deviants. So, to keep the peace, just use the catch all Queer.