4 months is not very long to deal with trauma. I’m no shrink but I do know that after 9/11 here in NYC, I was told by a doctor that trauma victims needed sleep more than anything else. Hope you’re getting it. For years after 9/11, I’d jump out of my seat if a plane flew low. It’s only in the last few years I’ve gotten over it.
Take care of yourself!
Getting out of Red England would be a BIG help...wife has insulin resistance syndrome (type-2 diabetes), so the additional stress hasn't done her any favors.
I'm sure many of us never considered the stress that results from low-flying jets in your situation. To my shame, I never did.